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I assumed she meant texting instead of calling. Remember this is dating the article is talking about, not relationships. I'm old fashioned, I wanted to be courted, and texting me to hang out would not have won me over..I assume men who only text me in the first few weeks are lukewarm, because in my experience that was usually the case. My boyfriend and I text, but we also want to hear each others' voices. I think if you're into someone new, you're going to want to connect with them in a more personal way than texting and you'd want to show them more respect by calling and asking if I'm free Friday night, not texting it.
I wouldn't apply this to kids, as I think mid-20's and younger have their own rules and texting as the primary means of getting to know you is normal. But IMO if you're a man older than 35, you need to pick up the phone and date me properly.
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I assumed she meant texting instead of calling. Remember this is dating the article is talking about, not relationships. I'm old fashioned, I wanted to be courted, and texting me to hang out would not have won me over..I assume men who only text me in the first few weeks are lukewarm, because in my experience that was usually the case. My boyfriend and I text, but we also want to hear each others' voices. I think if you're into someone new, you're going to want to connect with them in a more personal way than texting and you'd want to show them more respect by calling and asking if I'm free Friday night, not texting it.
I wouldn't apply this to kids, as I think mid-20's and younger have their own rules and texting as the primary means of getting to know you is normal. But IMO if you're a man older than 35, you need to pick up the phone and date me properly.
I've dated people for literally years and we've rarely, if ever, spoken on the phone. It's just something a lot of people I know don't do.
When I call people at my age (sometimes I get the notion in my mind to do so) they always think something is wrong. I'll get a text back "hey, saw you called, is everything ok?". People generally prefer texting.
I've dated people for literally years and we've rarely, if ever, spoken on the phone. It's just something a lot of people I know don't do.
When I call people at my age (sometimes I get the notion in my mind to do so) they always think something is wrong. I'll get a text back "hey, saw you called, is everything ok?". People generally prefer texting.
Same.
I went on a few dates with a woman off Tinder this past summer, and for some reason, I wanted to call her. Didn't pick up (bad reception where I was as well turned out), she texts a few minutes later saying something like "saw you called before, I'm at work, is everything alright?"
Texting is just simply how most people do it nowadays, and it's more convenient.
I've dated people for literally years and we've rarely, if ever, spoken on the phone. It's just something a lot of people I know don't do.
When I call people at my age (sometimes I get the notion in my mind to do so) they always think something is wrong. I'll get a text back "hey, saw you called, is everything ok?". People generally prefer texting.
So does everyone, but again this is a new relationship prospect, not a friend or girlfriend. You would only text to ask a woman out for a first, second, third date, never calling even if you're really falling for each other? That sounds odd to me, to not miss that more personal connection in the early stages. Again if I offer my number to a man to ask me out and he only texted, I would think he had some sort of social anxiety and was afraid to call, or was very lukewarm about me. Again, what you do in a relationship, a friendship, etc, is not the same as is normally done when courting a woman.
People don't prefer texting over talking on the phone. Why else would we have all these threads where people complain about misunderstandings and what not via text. Some people prefer texting over talking on the phone, to broaden wider than some is silly and just factually not correct.
I've dated people for literally years and we've rarely, if ever, spoken on the phone. It's just something a lot of people I know don't do.
When I call people at my age (sometimes I get the notion in my mind to do so) they always think something is wrong. I'll get a text back "hey, saw you called, is everything ok?". People I know/met generally prefer texting.
Fixed that.
People I know and have met prefer talking on the phone and in person as opposed to texting. It's more personal and real.
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So does everyone, but again this is a new relationship prospect, not a friend or girlfriend. You would only text to ask a woman out for a first, second, third date, never calling even if you're really falling for each other? That sounds odd to me, to not miss that more personal connection in the early stages. Again if I offer my number to a man to ask me out and he only texted, I would think he had some sort of social anxiety and was afraid to call, or was very lukewarm about me. Again, what you do in a relationship, a friendship, etc, is not the same as is normally done when courting a woman.
Yes, that's been the norm for me, and it's what I see around me. You text to set up times to get together and talk in person. The personal connections are done in person. This is true for a first meeting, a second date, or a year in. I also hear from female friends lots of complaints about dudes that call instead of text, it is widely seen as an intrusion and turns many women off of guys they would otherwise like to go out with.
I literally cannot remember the last time I called anyone except for my mother where they actually answered.
Well if you didn't generalize what "people" prefer...I wouldn't have to.
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