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She is 26, I am 35.. and yes, I know how lonely and angry people are on relationship boards.
I am not lonely, or angry. But why is this a good relationship? I see the attraction though, she is almost 10 years younger than you and probably hot to look at and you liked that so looked past everything else, on top of being afraid to be alone. What I will never ever understand, is why women with no job and no ambitions are attractive to men. And how these women think a guy will just come along and support them. I don't get it, at all. Regardless, you should date someone at least 2 years before moving in when kids are involved.
I am not lonely, or angry. But why is this a good relationship? I see the attraction though, she is almost 10 years younger than you and probably hot to look at and you liked that so looked past everything else, on top of being afraid to be alone. What I will never ever understand, is why women with no job and no ambitions are attractive to men. And how these women think a guy will just come along and support them.
Because experience has shown them that men WILL support them for their hot bootie.
What I will never ever understand, is why women with no job and no ambitions are attractive to men.
Especially when the guy who doesn't want to be alone suddenly finds himself with 2 toddlers 24/7--and 4 on the weekends! When does he find time to ****?
I am alittle confused by all this ire- plenty of SAHM in the world, that I see (and I was the breadwinner for many years). It is not unusual.
Those kids are pretty young for mom to get back to work- unless the OP wants to watch the kids on weekends-- unless she has a skill, the posters are right - she will barely be able to cover the cost of daycare for two kids (and depending on the area, even that) so you have to weigh it out whether its worth it.
A lot of judgment here on OP supporting a SAHM when its still the norm in plenty of families.
The main concern is the timeline, 3 months is pretty fast...
It would be better for the woman, if she could have a means of supporting herself- it would free her considerabley in that she could be more independent.
But its not a choice she chose to make as before she was living with her dad...
So, OP its up to you, whether its worth it, good luck on your talk-
but just be aware she not going to make much money and it would make better sense, if its really about finances, that she work on weekends when you are home so that her money goes to household expenses, and not just childcare (unless- heres a thought grandpa is willing to provide that for when she does work-- thats what my partner's parent provides for his sibling)....
[quote=CAjerseychick;46654155]I am alittle confused by all this ire- plenty of SAHM in the world, that I see (and I was the breadwinner for many years). It is not unusual.
Those kids are pretty young for mom to get back to work- unless the OP wants to watch the kids on weekends-- unless she has a skill, the posters are right - she will barely be able to cover the cost of daycare for two kids (and depending on the area, even that) so you have to weigh it out whether its worth it.
A lot of judgment here on OP supporting a SAHM when its still the norm in plenty of families.
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ok, but what if she had never met this guy? she shouldn't go back to work, learn how to support herself? There is zero judgement about being a SAHM. There is judgement about women who choose never to work, and just go from man to man expecting to be supported. I would guess this girl never worked even before kids. Being a SAHM in a stable marriage is far different than finding a guy and moving your two kids in and expecting to be supported.
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