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Within the past 2 years, I've gone through 2 serious relationships. They were both exhausting to say the least but I really fell head over heels for the both of them (not at the same time of course lol.) It begs the question - how do I know when the right one will come along if I fall in love so easily it seems? Does it feel different compared to past relationships?
If I'm in a relationship, I'm fully devoted and put effort in to make it work. I've been single for about 7 months now and it's somewhat liberating to just do my own thing. I still go on a date here and there when I have time, but that's just me trying to keep my social life somewhat alive on top of work/school.
You gradually learn if someone is right after what should be a long time successfully dating. If it's always a struggle and drama, then you're probably not with the right person.
Most relationships start out great. You're looking for one where you grow closer over time, not where you're always banging your head against a wall.
Within the past 2 years, I've gone through 2 serious relationships. They were both exhausting to say the least but I really fell head over heels for the both of them (not at the same time of course lol.) It begs the question - how do I know when the right one will come along if I fall in love so easily it seems? Does it feel different compared to past relationships?
If I'm in a relationship, I'm fully devoted and put effort in to make it work. I've been single for about 7 months now and it's somewhat liberating to just do my own thing. I still go on a date here and there when I have time, but that's just me trying to keep my social life somewhat alive on top of work/school.
You don't. There is no "one" so to speak. Now there are people that you are more compatible with, but trust me, you'd be glad that there is no "one". As crazy as life is. You meet this "one" and you lose that person for good, sad ending...
I only had that feeling once and it was with my current boyfriend. The best way I can describe it is we just clicked on so many levels and I felt like I'd known him my whole life. You know how on a lot of beginning dates you feel like you have to present your best self and be on your toes? From day one I felt like I could be my real and somewhat quirky self with him and he felt the same towards me. For example, he's the first man I told that I still play D20 games (think dungeons and dragons) with on the first date and not feel like it was weird. If I believed in reincarnation, I'd say we were together in a past life we feel that close.
OP, if you're working and going to school at the same time, how on earth did you have time for an "exhausting" relationship? Focus on school, and forget about relationships until you're done with school.
And yeah, you know you've found a workable "one" when it's not exhausting; rather--it's joyful. It sounds like you were with the wrong guys. Now that you're alone and are enjoying your solitude, consider doing some reflecting to figure out why you chose those guys, instead of maybe waiting for someone more compatible that didn't require "work" to make it work in just the first year.
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How do you know when someone is "the one"?
