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My soon to be ex wife was recently with a guy who claimed to have around 30 partners, mainly one night stands. She said she left disappointed and expected better (sparing ya'll the details, but it sounds like he thought he was making a porn video).
Which got me thinking - does having a high one night stand number create a better lover than someone whose only had one (or a few) partners?
In my experience, the first few times usually suck. It takes awhile to learn what people respond to and what signals to look for. Also some things float to the top, and although not everyone is the same, I think some things are pretty similar..
I don't see how a bunch of one night stands will teach you that stuff..
But to answer your question, it honestly depends on the person. Some people can sleep with dozens of individuals and still suck in bed. And others are just born naturals.
But to be fair, if someone is THAT good(especially a woman) it's very hard to believe they haven't had a lot of sex
Some people will say that experience is experience whether it comes from a long term relationship or one night stands - But I tend to think that the long term relationship will teach you more because you actually spend time getting to know the person, how to please them, and how to ultimately keep them coming back for more.
And you are getting divorced and discussing her new found sex life with other men? Wow. That could be a thread all of its own!
Being French, I am unsure what you mean by lover. You mean someone to be in a relationship with or someone to have sex with ? If its the first one, the answer would be no. I have a pretty high count of one night stands (higher than the dude you mentionned) and I am having a hard time being in couple. I am not used to that reality.
If you are talking about a lover... someone who makes love to you, than the answer is yes. I learned quite a lot from all this sexing with a lot of girls. I know how to make them feel good and I don't really have a huge pole, to be honest. Once a girl told me I was a god in bed. Thats because I just knew what made a woman feel good. I had experienced so many different techniques, I was well equipped to find the optimal stuff to do to make her feel good.
And yes, you are a better lover if you have slept with more women (usually). Because even if you slept 300 times with a single woman, you have only experienced with her and don't know what other females like. You did not different techniques with different women. So you won't know really how to adapt when you meet a new one and you might have to start all over again (learning how to please that woman).
Its probably the only positive thing I get out of all this screwing and ****ing around with so many females, I learned how to please them quite well (at least I think).
Experience and aplication are two different things.
Doing something a lot doesn't automatically mean you are good at it.
Equally, knowing all the principles doesn't mean you are skilful at applying them.
Agree with whoever said it is down to the individual.
Experience and aplication are two different things.
Doing something a lot doesn't automatically mean you are good at it.
Equally, knowing all the principles doesn't mean you are skilful at applying them.
Agree with whoever said it is down to the individual.
You are right good sir. Its true. Personnally I went with the '' knowing a lot of principle '' thing and it worked well for me...
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Originally Posted by Wmsn4Life
With one-night stands, you don't get any feedback.
So you don't know if what you're doing is worth coming back for.
You are right but sometimes you just end up knowing how she think you were. She tells you directly or indirectly. Sometimes they send a text to their friends and let their phone near the bed...And I take a sneak peak LOL. And I think the best indicator : The girl calls you back and wants to have sex some more. At that point its no longer a '' One night '' but it does confirm the girl had fun sexing with you if she wants to keep on having sex with you after the one night stand
Being French, I am unsure what you mean by lover. You mean someone to be in a relationship with or someone to have sex with ? If its the first one, the answer would be no. I have a pretty high count of one night stands (higher than the dude you mentionned) and I am having a hard time being in couple. I am not used to that reality.
If you are talking about a lover... someone who makes love to you, than the answer is yes. I learned quite a lot from all this sexing with a lot of girls. I know how to make them feel good and I don't really have a huge pole, to be honest. Once a girl told me I was a god in bed. Thats because I just knew what made a woman feel good. I had experienced so many different techniques, I was well equipped to find the optimal stuff to do to make her feel good.
And yes, you are a better lover if you have slept with more women (usually). Because even if you slept 300 times with a single woman, you have only experienced with her and don't know what other females like. You did not different techniques with different women. So you won't know really how to adapt when you meet a new one and you might have to start all over again (learning how to please that woman).
Its probably the only positive thing I get out of all this screwing and ****ing around with so many females, I learned how to please them quite well (at least I think).
Experience in anything will usually improve performance. People are different physically in this dept and experience features exploring a variety of thing's. Also a desire to really please the person you are with is vital as well.
I got a chuckle from the term "huge pole" lol. Have not heard that one for a while!
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Someone having a one-night stand may require some degree of passion/feelings (even if they're fake), but they're mainly going to be impressed/unimpressed by your skills.
Someone in a relationship may require some degree of skill, but they're mainly in it for the passion/feelings.
Each of these choices in lifestyle bring their own drawbacks, whether it be a risk of inadequacy in technical skill or a risk of inadequacy in the cultivation and expression of true passion/feelings. But note the word "risk". You don't have to be either of the two "types" to master both.
As far as "creativity" (positions, technique, etc) I'd say probably more partners...but for someone who is more connected and able to understand their partners' needs (and be concerned about those needs), probably someone who has had a LTR or two.
Like most things, a balance of the two is probably best.
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