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Why do people have one night stands (especially after drinking), and then automatically assume that something is going to come out of it, and then get hurt when it doesn't, and blame it on the other person? Especially calling on the phone the day after the event? It seems naive.
Why do people have one night stands (especially after drinking), and then automatically assume that something is going to come out of it, and then get hurt when it doesn't, and blame it on the other person? Especially calling on the phone the day after the event? It seems naive.
Because to some people, sex is something important that is significant beyond the discharge of body fluid.
I've avoided one night stands, as the few I've had have resulted in things like 'I love you' and other equally frightening statements. Plus, the sex is never as good.
Should you create a relationship with someone you had a ONS with, even if you don't want one, in order not to hurt their feelings?
No, but you should treat them respectfully and kindly. And why shouldn't they call the next day? You did just do something intimate with another person - a follow-up phone call or text seems reasonable and polite. The implication otherwise is that you just hooked up with someone you don't even like - and why would you do that? Unless they were just a hole/appendage to you - which doesn't speak very well of you.
A relationship is not necessarily going to follow, but that doesn't mean both parties can't behave decently toward each other. Plus, I've heard of a lot of relationships (and at least one marriage) that grew out of one-night stands. For a lot of people, I suspect it is seen as a potential doorway for something more if it goes well.
I hate to generalize, but I do know someone who would engage in one night stands, hoping more would materialize. This person no longer does this, but has admitted they did it due to low self esteem and a need to feel "wanted" and "accepted." Being desired sexually fulfilled some of this need, and by giving in to ONS easily, they hoped it would lead to more.
I hate to generalize, but I do know someone who would engage in one night stands, hoping more would materialize. This person no longer does this, but has admitted they did it due to low self esteem and a need to feel "wanted" and "accepted." Being desired sexually fulfilled some of this need, and by giving in to ONS easily, they hoped it would lead to more.
Why do people have one night stands (especially after drinking), and then automatically assume that something is going to come out of it, and then get hurt when it doesn't, and blame it on the other person? Especially calling on the phone the day after the event? It seems naive.
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should not have any expectation.
