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Are you suggesting the OP is lying to herself? She said she doesn't have time to date. If she had time, she'd have met the guy she was texting already.
This is what she said
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Originally Posted by Bets101
Here is the problem. I am in graduate school, while also working full time. I dont really have time to date but dont want to spend the rest of my life alone (I am getting old and it is also nice to have someone while going through difficult times). I tend to look for people who are also busy (otherwise, no one would tolerate my schedule). This guy seemed to have a similar lifestyle and possibly seeing him once a week would be ideal for me. But that is a different topic.
Once a week is time to date
Once a month is time to date
Once a year is time to date
You rejected the guy. If someone is flirting with you, you either give them the honest answer which is something like "After we meet and if the chemistry is right, absolutely"; or you flirt back in response. Instead, you laughed at the first flirt, outright rejected the second, and then bolted out the door with the third.
You're only an hour apart. Either text the guy that you'd like to align your schedules to meet in person rather than doing the virtual thing; or delete and block the guy. What you're doing isn't real.
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You rejected the guy. If someone is flirting with you, you either give them the honest answer which is something like "After we meet and if the chemistry is right, absolutely"; or you flirt back in response. Instead, you laughed at the first flirt, outright rejected the second, and then bolted out the door with the third.
You're only an hour apart. Either text the guy that you'd like to align your schedules to meet in person rather than doing the virtual thing; or delete and block the guy. What you're doing isn't real.
That's pretty clumsy flirting.
Though, I agree she didn't handle it well (assuming she's interested)
You rejected the guy. If someone is flirting with you, you either give them the honest answer which is something like "After we meet and if the chemistry is right, absolutely"; or you flirt back in response. Instead, you laughed at the first flirt, outright rejected the second, and then bolted out the door with the third.
You're only an hour apart. Either text the guy that you'd like to align your schedules to meet in person rather than doing the virtual thing; or delete and block the guy. What you're doing isn't real.
It might be a reason I am still single. But that is who I am. I expect people to know what is appropriate and what not (and when).
Telling someone you want to cuddle before meeting sounds childish (especially at my age).
It might be a reason I am still single. But that is who I am. I expect people to know what is appropriate and what not (and when).
Telling someone you want to cuddle before meeting sounds childish (especially at my age).
It's just flirting. Playing around. You haven't met yet, so he has NOTHING else to go on.
If you expect anything to happen, you have to build things to a point where you make a meeting happen because you can't stand the messaging anymore.
If that exchange is "who you are," then you should not try to meet men in a platform based on messaging. You need to meet them IRL so they can witness your charisma in person.
Once a week is time to date
Once a month is time to date
Once a year is time to date
What she said is, "I don't really have time to date". Once/year isn't "having time to date", because no one interested in dating would put up with seeing the object of their interest only once a year. She also said that because she's really busy, she looks for guys who are also really busy, thereby pretty much defeating her purpose, and guaranteeing that dating won't happen, or will be highly unlikely to happen.
So, whatever. Spin it however you want, if it makes you feel better.
The silly/harmless flirting wouldn't bother me a bit. He's just trying to break the ice and see if there's any chemistry between the two of you. If you're going to take pictures of yourself in bed, don't be surprise if some guys assume you're okay with some intimate/flirty texting.
This guy can't win here. You didn't like him flirting with you, so he respected that and moved on...and yet, if he'd kept doing it, you'd probably have called him a creeper or worse. He's s****ed either way with you.
The silly/harmless flirting wouldn't bother me a bit. He's just trying to break the ice and see if there's any chemistry between the two of you. If you're going to take pictures of yourself in bed, don't be surprise if some guys assume you're okay with some intimate/flirty texting.
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I have been talking to this guy I met on OLD site for two weeks (almost every day). We tried to meet but our schedules are conflicting and we live an hour away. Yesterday he asked me for a selfie (I only have two pics online). He sent me selfie first and then I reciprocated. I told him I was already in bed, but studying. My selfie was with my head on the pillow, but it wasnt too revealing or anything (just face and one shoulder).
He texted: I want to come cuddle with you. You are so pretty and look like a good cuddler.
Me: Hahhahaa
Him: You need kisses (kissy emoji)
Me: No, I dont. I am good (smile emoji)
Him: (sad face emoji)
Me: Off to bed. Good night
Him: Nighty night (rose)
Today, I havent heard from him at all. What went wrong?
I don't think he was looking for a booty call because he was at work at that time (night shift). And, he should be completely insane to think girl he never met would invite him over.
Well, it seems like you shot him down a bit when he flirted and cut the conversation off. Here's an example (in blue) of maybe how you could have flirted a little if you were feeling it...
He texted: I want to come cuddle with you. You are so pretty and look like a good cuddler.
Me: Hahhahaa ((Thx... you're not so bad yourself.)
Him: You need kisses (kissy emoji)
Me: No, I dont. I am good (smile emoji) (Maybe someday )
Him: (sad face emoji)
Me: Off to bed. Good night (Poor baby... Early class so off to bed now)
Him: Nighty night (rose)
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Early class so off to bed now)
