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I can't believe you used HIM proposing to HER as an argument for why she may not be that interested in him. You do realize that the majority of proposals are done by the man? And also, accepting a marriage proposal means you are invested in the relationship and want to take it all the way?
If you MUST give it a shot, ask her out to coffee outside work, or ask her out for a drink. If she agrees to it, there MAY be something there. If not, move along. She's not into you. And she's engaged.
I can't believe you used HIM proposing to HER as an argument for why she may not be that interested in him. You do realize that the majority of proposals are done by the man? And also, accepting a marriage proposal means you are invested in the relationship and want to take it all the way?
If you MUST give it a shot, ask her out to coffee outside work, or ask her out for a drink. If she agrees to it, there MAY be something there. If not, move along. She's not into you. And she's engaged.
Oh gosh no - I wouldn't recommend him asking her for coffee or a drink. She might agree just being friendly and as a close co-worker, but the OP will interpret it as reciprocal affection and get even more attached (personally, I would say obsessed) than he already is. Look OP, she's works with you and is nice to you, but that doesn't mean she's got the hots for you. She's engaged, so just STOP already.
Oh gosh no - I wouldn't recommend him asking her for coffee or a drink. She might agree just being friendly and as a close co-worker, but the OP will interpret it as reciprocal affection and get even more attached (personally, I would say obsessed) than he already is. Look OP, she's works with you and is nice to you, but that doesn't mean she's got the hots for you. She's engaged, so just STOP already.
I highly doubt the girl will accept the coffee/drink offer though, is why I mentioned it. If he's never hung out with her outside of work in 4 years and their convos are mainly about work-related things... That girls isn't going to say yes, IMO.
Yes, you need to understand that she lives with a guy and is supposedly 'engaged'. Wedding date is?
Do some more work. Have people snoop around a little bit and determine if it is what it seems to be.
There truly is magic in a special relationship. A lot of people settle. Don't settle. Ever.
Don't be a stalker or a creep. But you don't have to wilt either. Find out more, and then if the door is partly open, have coffee with her and let her know your interest. Don't overwhelm her. Keep it low key. She'll know what you are saying.
Good luck. I spent ten years trying to find someone who at one time had been very special to me. I finally did. She was married. The last fifteen years of our lives together have been spectacular? You never know unless you ask. Just do it properly.
Yes, you need to understand that she lives with a guy and is supposedly 'engaged'. Wedding date is?
Do some more work. Have people snoop around a little bit and determine if it is what it seems to be.
There truly is magic in a special relationship. A lot of people settle. Don't settle. Ever.
Don't be a stalker or a creep. But you don't have to wilt either. Find out more, and then if the door is partly open, have coffee with her and let her know your interest. Don't overwhelm her. Keep it low key. She'll know what you are saying.
Good luck. I spent ten years trying to find someone who at one time had been very special to me. I finally did. She was married. The last fifteen years of our lives together have been spectacular? You never know unless you ask. Just do it properly.
What a skeevy piece of advice. I mean really.
What if this was your wife, what if some dude was doing what you describe here to your wife and you lost your marriage because of it.
I agree with Chow. The women is engaged, has given NO signs of interest beyond that which is professional, and is on the whole, conducting herself ethically.
Can't say the same for the OP, who shows nothing but disrespect and narcissism.
I suspect the crux of the matter is that he has no experience with women and takes every positive interaction as a sign of interest and a way out of his "involuntary celibacy." Who gives a **** if the outcome ruins people's lives, futures?
Imagine this poor woman, when he asks her out and she rationally says no, then having to go back and work on that team.
OP has just ****ed with her job, her livelihood, her reputation and her peace of mind.
At this point- D. Unless you are a total dick. You missed your shot.
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You do realize that the majority of proposals are done by the man? And also, accepting a marriage proposal means you are invested in the relationship and want to take it all the way? 
