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Just at the start. This is a long distance relationship.
My girlfriend once asked me to have my phone unlock code so i gave it to her and now she even has her fingerprint on it. I don't really care because i have nothing to hide and i'm open to everything.
At some point she went through my phone text messages etc. (We don't have the same mother language, as long as i'm talking my own language she can't even understand)
I once asked her to open her phone i want to show her something but she doesn't care and would never let me use her phone nor open it for me. After a few months i told her: "I trust you but at the same time i'm feeling weird because you would never let me see your phone. The answer i got to that was: "hmmmh you don't trust me?" I said, I do but sometimes it's making it hard for me that you're not willing to show me your phone or let me use it. I then continued by "Are you 100% open to me and tell me everything?" She said yes and "Trust is key to a relationship, so don't ask me again about that stuff.
I want to ask you Woman and men. Do you have any advice or anything i could do? Or am i in the right?
When she asks why she no longer is able to access your phone tell her how unfairly you felt the whole situation felt.
She may not feel the same as you, but she should be able to understand how the situaion does not reflect trust in one another going in both directions.
Yes, remove her access to your phone, and don't give it back unless and until she gives your access to hers first, and leaves that intact. If she wants access, ask her, "Don't you trust me?" Payback.
Yes, remove her access to your phone, and don't give it back unless and until she gives your access to hers first, and leaves that intact. If she wants access, ask her, "Don't you trust me?" Payback.
As people tend to forget what they said earlier, it is good to open a new conversation about the topic and not just shoot back what one said before. Because too often it comes "without a context" for the another participant and it is not fruitfull. What stays in our minds for years are forgotten years ago by those who said it. That is why discussions should be framed.
Most guilty people are suspicious of others and I believe she is snooping your phone to find something on you to justify her guilty conduct for something she is doing.
I don't think it's enough just to delete access. The OP has clearly opened himself up to her and she has not responded in kind. The lack of equal access has lead to an imbalance in the relationship and that will continue regardless of what the OP does to his phone.
IMO, it's time to take a step back from the relationship. If she was being honest with the OP, it wouldn't even be an issue for her to share her phone with him. However, not only is she not sharing access, she is challenging his very request.
Sorry OP, time to start cutting your losses. If you don't, you'll eventually figure out why you should have done it now.
Most guilty people are suspicious of others and I believe she is snooping your phone to find something on you to justify her guilty conduct for something she is doing.
I agree, delete her access.
Unfortunately the above.
People with nothing to hide - hide nothing.
Move on OP - she's either hiding something or playing mind games.
Neither are good.
Best of luck.
Trust is the basis for all relationships. None exists in yours. She's cheating. Why even bother?
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