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Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Yes, it's me again. While I've been telling my frustration, people have barked at me that "dating should be fun" and that I'm taking it too seriously. So I actually, against my better judgement, went into a date over the weekend with that mindset.
I met the girl online. I planned a night of drinks and dancing. This girl looked okay so I figured it has a decent chance of being a starter. Date night comes. She was late but I was okay with that. We sit down and have a drink and decent conversation. I probably should have ended the damn thing there because everything in this conversation was saying non starter. Then we go dancing, the club I picked is usually popping but when I went in there it was almost empty, so I'm really stuck with a woman I know perfectly well I have no interest in dancing like an idiot for an hour because I didn't want to be the people here think I am.
Finally I get enough balls to say, I'm done goodnight. I've been depressed the last three days because never have I not wanted to be somewhere so badly and I honestly think she could feel it. So I feel crappy for wasting her time.
Let's review, I tried to actually have fun on a date and boy did it suck! It was a solid reminder of why I absolutely HATE dating. Now I'm even more depressed at my single status and the idea of being in a relationship I'm actually happy in seems further away. Maybe it's time for me to just admit I need to get out of this town and start over elsewhere because there is something about D.C. women.
I'm sorry the date didn't go well, Diss. Dating is only really fun if you are actually interested in the person and there is chemistry. So I understand the frustration when others insist it "should" be fun.
I think starting over somewhere else would be good for you. Don't rush though.
You call that "trying"? You pretty much doomed the date before it even started. Why would you pick a dance club for a first date? Try something more sedate next time and go in with a more positive attitude.
One time a group of friends and I broke down in a small town. We were stuck there for the night in a car.
I walked to the gas station for a snack. I sat outside the station on a log and ate my snack. Little did I know the log was filled with fire ants. Yeah!
I headed back to the car because it began pouring rain. In the car there were still ants in my pants. Biting me from time to time.
When the rain quit our car was parked in a giant puddle with no way out except soaker land.
The moral; I still laugh at that whole night of events.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Originally Posted by 1986pacecar
You call that "trying"? You pretty much doomed the date before it even started. Why would you pick a dance club for a first date? Try something more sedate next time and go in with a more positive attitude.
Yes I actually TRIED to have fun. I picked the club because I go there a lot with my friends and have a blast usually. I thought I could put my best "me" out there if I was in my element. Apparently I made a mistake.
We sit down and have a drink and decent conversation. I probably should have ended the damn thing there because everything in this conversation was saying non starter.
What specifically happened here? ^^^
First it was decent?, then it became a "non-starter."
Sorry to hear that. That's really too bad, it went down like that. But it was only one date too. Many first dates are going to be duds, it's the nature of the beast, but also believe me it could have been worse. You just weren't feeling a connection that night, don't be too hard or as a matter of fact don't be hard on yourself at all.
Location: Huntersville/Charlotte, NC and Washington, DC
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Sorry you're so down, Diss.
What specifically happened here? ^^^
First it was decent?, then it became a "non-starter."
I just really did not find the conversation anything to write home about. No chemistry, nothing like that.
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people here think I am.
