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I have NEVER taken birth control pills. When in committed relationship at first used condoms .... but usually he started wanting to use them using the claim it did not feel as good. I would never not use a condom in unless in a long term relationships. If he pulls out becore he climaxes then then the risk for pregancy declines. Before being married that was a huge stressor for me and totally effected my ability to enjoy the experience as I was scared he wohld get md pregnant and ruin my life. Once married it did not matter if I got pregnant so the pressure and fear were removed. I always thought a guys general level on intelligence was associated with his willingness to wear a condom.... if he did not want to use a condom he was probably a carelessly flake and someone I do not want to get stuck with. You need to stand firm with your decision as the woman your with seems pretty careless..
Long term hormonal BC is a no-go for me. That leaves few options: VCF, vasectomy or Paragard IUD. We don't like condoms, so I tend to prefer VCF and eventually he'll get a vasectomy.
'I would hate to be your partner and have to use a condom because you didn't trust that we were in a monogamous relationship and neither is us had HIV', said one participant in this conversation.
My ex uses this line, he adds though he cant get a woman pregnant..... thats why he has 5 kids by 5 different people and doesnt have any of them.
Yes, I'm sure that's what everyone who's in a "monogamous" relationship but still contracted an STD thought as well.
One of my best friends used to work as a sexual health nurse. The amount of people with STDs/STIs in "monogamous" relationships is shocking. She quit her job after 2 years because she found all the cheating stories so depressing.
One of my best friends used to work as a sexual health nurse. The amount of people with STDs/STIs in "monogamous" relationships is shocking. She quit her job after 2 years because she found all the cheating stories so depressing.
i wonder how many didnt know their spouse was cheating until they had to be tested...
One of my best friends used to work as a sexual health nurse. The amount of people with STDs/STIs in "monogamous" relationships is shocking. She quit her job after 2 years because she found all the cheating stories so depressing.
You might not believe this but...... I've obviously never had an STD and you know the lifestyle i lead and many of my mates and lots of people I know ( both genders ) have lived in this respect as well yet I've only ever heard of one that caught an STD
I know what you're thinking that it's not something that you would tell the world about especially me and my mates we would know.
This thread is really just about, "You can't trust anybody to be faithful," more than anything. It's not even about contraception or disease prophylaxis. It's about not trusting people you enter into a relationship with.
People who truly feel that nobody can be trusted are probably better off avoiding relationships, to be honest. Then the question of whether or not condoms are used within a relationship becomes moot. You can't really build stable relationships anyway if you feel nobody is trustworthy.
This thread is really just always to be about, "You can't trust anybody to be faithful," more than anything. It's not even about contraception or disease prophylaxis. It's about not trusting people you enter into a relationship with.
People who truly feel that nobody can be trusted are probably better off avoiding relationships, to be honest. Then the question of whether or not condoms are used within a relationship becomes moot. You can't really build stable relationships anyway if you feel nobody is trustworthy.
I believe that this is definitely a case where people should do what's right for them. I've had an IUD, and now I'm with someone who has had a vasectomy, so that covers what's important to us.
That being said, I wanted to respond to this comment in the OP:
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Originally Posted by scribbles76
'I would hate to be your partner and have to use a condom because you didn't trust that we were in a monogamous relationship and neither is us had HIV', said one participant in this conversation. Well excuse the hell outta me for (hypothetically) trying to keep us both safe! It's usually the people who act the most offended when you don't trust them who have something to hide, and I believe one can never be too careful. if you are sexually active in a world where STIs exist, there is always a chance that you will catch something and/or pass it on. I don't like those odds no matter how small they are. Better safe than sorry.
I personally couldn't imagine being in an established relationship where there was not an element of basic trust.
IOW, if a guy insisted upon using a condom at all times because "one can never be too careful", I'd seriously question his trust of me not to fall on the next penis to come along, as well as his own self-control.
No thanks.
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