Protection (and birth control) for the partnered (long-term, marriage, guys)
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I got into quite a discussion yesterday about condoms. Apparently I'm odd because, if I ever took leave of my few remaining senses and got together with someone, I would continue to use them as I do now. Is this generally frowned upon in monogamous relationships?
I really, really, really don't want kids, and I will take any precautions available to avoid them coming along and wrecking a life I'm perfectly capable of screwing up by myself, thank you very much. What's so terrible about taking control of and responsibility for those precautions rather than expecting my (insert word I can't even bring myself to use) to handle that side of things herself, possibly in a way that would compromise her health in the long run?
'I would hate to be your partner and have to use a condom because you didn't trust that we were in a monogamous relationship and neither is us had HIV', said one participant in this conversation. Well excuse the hell outta me for (hypothetically) trying to keep us both safe! It's usually the people who act the most offended when you don't trust them who have something to hide, and I believe one can never be too careful. if you are sexually active in a world where STIs exist, there is always a chance that you will catch something and/or pass it on. I don't like those odds no matter how small they are. Better safe than sorry.
I remember it airing and it gave me nightmares for a week. By the time I got around to having my fun, the 'DON'T GO TO BED WITH ANYONE OR YOU'LL DIE!' message got through loud and clear. Perhaps too well, but why risk your health and someone else's when it's just as easy to play safe?
I'm not a big fan of hormonal birth control so it's always condoms for me. I'd be willing to have the coil fitted for a long-term relationship but it's not something that has been an issue yet. The amount of people on forums like CD who say that they don't use condoms or really hate using them when forced to, really surprises me. The vast majority of guys I have had sex with had no problems with them.
In marriage, where kids were an eventual goal, but timing was key, hormonal contraceptives were our choice. As we reach the end of having children, now, either vasectomy or tubal ligation are on the table. I'm ready to be done with hormonal bc, and neither of us cares for condoms.
Prior to a marriage relationship, always condoms and hormonal contraception.
I got into quite a discussion yesterday about condoms. Apparently I'm odd because, if I ever took leave of my few remaining senses and got together with someone, I would continue to use them as I do now. Is this generally frowned upon in monogamous relationships?
I really, really, really don't want kids, and I will take any precautions available to avoid them coming along and wrecking a life I'm perfectly capable of screwing up by myself, thank you very much. What's so terrible about taking control of and responsibility for those precautions rather than expecting my (insert word I can't even bring myself to use) to handle that side of things herself, possibly in a way that would compromise her health in the long run?
'I would hate to be your partner and have to use a condom because you didn't trust that we were in a monogamous relationship and neither is us had HIV', said one participant in this conversation. Well excuse the hell outta me for (hypothetically) trying to keep us both safe! It's usually the people who act the most offended when you don't trust them who have something to hide, and I believe one can never be too careful. if you are sexually active in a world where STIs exist, there is always a chance that you will catch something and/or pass it on. I don't like those odds no matter how small they are. Better safe than sorry.
I remember it airing and it gave me nightmares for a week. By the time I got around to having my fun, the 'DON'T GO TO BED WITH ANYONE OR YOU'LL DIE!' message got through loud and clear. Perhaps too well, but why risk your health and someone else's when it's just as easy to play safe?
If this bothers you THIS much then continue as you are then mate, even as diss said have a vasectomy or better yet don't have sex! it's that simple
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Originally Posted by Sweet Like Sugar
He's also concerned about STDs and a vasectomy wouldn't offer any protection in that regard.
OP mentioned the context of being in a monogamous relationship. If he and his partner have been tested and come back clean, the STDs should not be a factor.
OP mentioned the context of being in a monogamous relationship. If he and his partner have been tested and come back clean, the STDs should not be a factor.
Yes, I'm sure that's what everyone who's in a "monogamous" relationship but still contracted an STD thought as well.
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