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I don't think she "played" him, and I'm not convinced he was behind the break-in.
She just wasn't that "into" him.
People usually don't want to say/hear honesty such as "I don't want to spend more time with you, have a nice life". They want to talk it out and analyze when it would be best to just move on.
I'm not sure what went on here, but it might very well be that this guy wasn't exactly played. He may have done something while he was over her house for lunch, that wound up turning her off and then not liking him enough to see him again. This has happened to me before, more than once.
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Right. I wouldn't assume he was played, especially since we don't know her side of the story.
How is it "playing" someone to invite them to your house for lunch, and then apparently after that lunch to be too polite to say "I don't like you as I actually thought I would" and ease out of the relationship with excuses?
I'm missing something. Trying to get to know someone better by inviting them to lunch and then making excuses later to avoid them because it turns out you don't like them is just how social behavior works. IMHO.
Right. It was a first date that didn't work out. Nobody got played. The guy clearly thought he had, though, according to the narrative.
But who invites a stranger to their home for a first date? And who freaks out over a first date that didn't turn into a second one?
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lol! Wow, CD-R isn't keeping up, that's for sure! Maybe she staged it for the insurance pay-off, because she wanted to redecorate, and get a new stereo system and TV. OP, did she have renter's insurance?
it sucks that her home got broken into but i don't feel sorry for her. If she's not into him, then at least have the respect to tell him that instead of making up BS excuses like a little girl would.
I like the title of this thread. There's certain people you absolutely DO NOT screw with. I DO NOT play games (anymore) because i know karma too well and she's a cold............
Does your friend has insurance? And i hope she quits playing these games with men. If this isn't a possible wake up call, then i don't know what is...
it sucks that her home got broken into but i don't feel sorry for her.
I like the title of this thread. There's certain people you absolutely DO NOT screw with. I DO NOT play games (anymore) because i know karma too well and she's a cold............
Does your friend has insurance? And i hope she quits playing these games with men. If this isn't a possible wake up call, then i don't know what is...
What games? Who was playing games? She invited a guy on a first date. He thought there was chemistry, she didn't. The end. MOST first dates end that way.
What if, after a first date, some guy decided to move on, because she was a dud, let's say. He was charming about it, and like so many guys, at the end of the date, he said "I'll call you", but never does. Would that be "playing games", leading her on, with a first date? Would it be ok for her to exact revenge on him in some way, because he "played her" for a first date? Do you see how deranged that thinking is?
What games? Who was playing games? She invited a guy on a first date. He thought there was chemistry, she didn't. The end. MOST first dates end that way.
Accordingly to the OP's opening post, they were "into each other" but she made excuses to not to see him and lied about her being sick. Unless something else happened that im not aware of, then that's playing someone for a fool IMO.
What games? Who was playing games? She invited a guy on a first date. He thought there was chemistry, she didn't. The end. MOST first dates end that way.
What if, after a first date, some guy decided to move on, because she was a dud, let's say. Would that be "playing games", leading her on, with a first date? Would it be ok for her to exact revenge on him in some way, because he "played her" for a first date? Do you see how deranged that thinking is?
Moving on is great if he would told her that. From what i read, things were going well and they were into each other but she decided to play "the ghosting game" and made up excuses.
I understand that it happens on first dates quite often but at least have the respect to tell the other person you're no longer interested instead of making up excuses.
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