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It is, but at the same time I don't feel like I have to be rude either. I enjoy learning new things about my mistakes and other people's behavior. I'm learning how to have a better 'picker'.
And a brutal honest rejection doesn't have to mean that you say that you thought they were ugly in person, bad convo skills, etc.
Yea, that's just kicking someone when they're down.
Rejection totally sucks, man. Ive felt that painful burning sensation in the middle of the chest many times. But after a while it starts to feel good, Lol.
Yea, that's just kicking someone when they're down.
Rejection totally sucks, man. Ive felt that painful burning sensation in the middle of the chest many times. But after a while it starts to feel good, Lol.
Haha, I know what you mean.
I've gotten so used to rejection by now, it's to the point where I expect it, and then I'm pleasantly shocked when it doesn't happen.
Yea, that's just kicking someone when they're down.
Rejection totally sucks, man. Ive felt that painful burning sensation in the middle of the chest many times. But after a while it starts to feel good, Lol.
It feels good, because you know you'll survive, you did last time. I'm talking about me not you. Maybe some of us just take more subtle cues as rejection and back away. When someone tells me: "Ill try and fit you into my schedule." It's like having the air let out...not any position I aspire to have.
Yea, that's just kicking someone when they're down.
Rejection totally sucks, man. Ive felt that painful burning sensation in the middle of the chest many times. But after a while it starts to feel good, Lol.
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Originally Posted by NewYorker11356
Haha, I know what you mean.
I've gotten so used to rejection by now, it's to the point where I expect it, and then I'm pleasantly shocked when it doesn't happen.
For me, rejection comes as a very quick sting that disappears almost as quickly as it appears. The only time I had that burning sensation in my chest was at age 22 when I had my first heart attack.
Rejection is like, okay. She rejected me, that's done (probably because I barely met her). Compared with someone you have spent years of your life with suddenly wanting nothing to do with you. I get a lot of pain and confusion in this case.
It is, but at the same time I don't feel like I have to be rude either. I enjoy learning new things about my mistakes and other people's behavior. I'm learning how to have a better 'picker'.
Remember, not every "flaw" is an actual flaw. You could have one person pick you apart for various things, and then have another person fall in love with you for those very same things that the other person picked you apart with.
My point was, we are all trying to navigate the very difficult world of modern dating. We are most of us doing the best we can. Some people just can't bring themselves to hurt someone standing right in front of them. Whether misguided or not, I think this girls intentions were to not hurt him. The thread title with the story makes it sound like this was some kind of Karma, that she brought it on herself by picking the wrong person to "play", and I just think that is grossly unfair.
I agree - thread title is misleading. OP made it sound like burglary of her home was justified payback.
So what would "honesty" look like, exactly? Because I can't imagine being completely honest. Like this?
Guy: I had a really nice time with you tonight. Want to go out again next week?
Girl (honest): I didn't have a good time with you. No, I don't want to see you again.
OR
Girl (with some graciousness): thanks for the evening, but I've got a bunch of projects and deadlines coming up for the next few months and I really don't have time for a relationship.
People don't act like honest Girl, because it's just rude and unnecessary. Everyone knows exactly what Gracious girl is saying. Well, I guess the friend of the OP doesn't, but everyone else knows what that means.
Actually if the girl told me the first one about not having a good time, I would literally drop dead from laughter.
Actually if the girl told me the first one about not having a good time, I would literally drop dead from laughter.
This 100%…
I'd probably be in tears, not from sadness. From laughing so hard!
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