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So I am hoping for some advice particualry from men...since men and women are so different .
I have been dating this guy for several months. (Not an official couple, yet!). I think it was a few months ago I really knew I was in love with him. I had a light bulb moments a few nights ago. We were watching Her (2013 film)...and there was a quote about falling in love and thats its a crazy thing to do. During the film he nodded and said 'yes, thats right'. He mentioned that quote again after the movie while we were preparing dinner. I didn't want to express how I felt as I was stunned . Yes, falling in love is madness but he made it sound like it was a foolish thing. But that night (after he left) and the following days I realized that he isn't interested in falling in love, or having a relationship with me. Was he trying to tell me this by using the quote from that movie? I feel awful and stupid, as if he is jerking me around the whole nine months of dating. I was contemplating telling him a few weeks ago that I am in love with him. I think I should move on? What shall I do?
he is seeing other women and doesn't want to get exclusive with any of them.
So I am hoping for some advice particualry from men...since men and women are so different .
I have been dating this guy for several months. (Not an official couple, yet!). I think it was a few months ago I really knew I was in love with him. I had a light bulb moments a few nights ago. We were watching Her (2013 film)...and there was a quote about falling in love and thats its a crazy thing to do. During the film he nodded and said 'yes, thats right'. He mentioned that quote again after the movie while we were preparing dinner. I didn't want to express how I felt as I was stunned . Yes, falling in love is madness but he made it sound like it was a foolish thing. But that night (after he left) and the following days I realized that he isn't interested in falling in love, or having a relationship with me. Was he trying to tell me this by using the quote from that movie? I feel awful and stupid, as if he is jerking me around the whole nine months of dating. I was contemplating telling him a few weeks ago that I am in love with him. I think I should move on? What shall I do?
It usually doesn't take someone anywhere close to nine months to figure out if they want something "more" with the person they're dating. The fact that you're still casual and not a couple after all this time says it all.
And while it can't hurt to have a conversation with him, I think you already know what you should do here.
Yes, falling in love is madness but he made it sound like it was a foolish thing.
This is where men and women differ. Women are more emotional and men are more analytical when it comes to relationships. For one thing, love is a man made concept - and like most man made concepts, it is subject to failure.
Thanks. I feel embarrassed posting this. We are committed. The day I posted this I saw him...I brought it up and I was angry too lol. I told him I wanted to break up and move on. He was shocked. And told me he wants to stay with me and only me.
So I think he was just being dumb for saying that love quote.
Thanks. I feel embarrassed posting this. We are committed. The day I posted this I saw him...I brought it up and I was angry too lol. I told him I wanted to break up and move on. He was shocked. And told me he wants to stay with me and only me.
So I think he was just being dumb for saying that love quote.
Maybe has decided to be smart and stay with you until someone else comes along......
Thanks. I feel embarrassed posting this. We are committed. The day I posted this I saw him...I brought it up and I was angry too lol. I told him I wanted to break up and move on. He was shocked. And told me he wants to stay with me and only me.
So I think he was just being dumb for saying that love quote.
Can you post the exact movie quote word for word? I can't post my opinion if I don't even know what the quote is. I tried watching it but stopped it. MY husband absolutely thinks it's a stupid movie, LOL. But then again, he is not into romantic movies he prefers geek sci fi movies. LOL. I love Rom com. All my fave actress are America's sweethearts, Sandra, Julia, Meg.
It seems to me maybe you are lost in translation in the quote and what he was telling you? if you confront him and was shock and told you what he said, ya know?
You do not have a parade, you have a man who is possibly unable to commit to you however, it is easier and less dramatic for him if he tells you what you want to hear so you will drop the subject and quit crying, fussing and carrying on about it.
This is your life and in theory you know your boyfriend so you should be able to make decisions for your own life based on what you know for sure within your relationship.
If you cannot have a discussion about an issue, and I do mean discussion, not crying, hysterics, screaming dramatics, then you really need to take a good honest look at yourself and your boyfriend and determine if you two should be together.
The other side of this vinyl is, if you want to believe that he was *just being dumb*, okay, carry on as you are, change nothing and stay on the *A* side of the vinyl.
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. Yes, falling in love is madness but he made it sound like it was a foolish thing. But that night (after he left) and the following days I realized that he isn't interested in falling in love, or having a relationship with me. Was he trying to tell me this by using the quote from that movie? I feel awful and stupid, as if he is jerking me around the whole nine months of dating. I was contemplating telling him a few weeks ago that I am in love with him. 
I think I should move on? What shall I do?
