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It mostly gives a sense of direction for people, It also has a host of ingrained legal benefits that you would otherwise have to jump through hoops to obtain/maintain.
My parents' marriage wasn't very good, and they divorced 10 years ago. Since then I've often wondered if there's really any point in getting married. I wonder if anyone can help, by explaining to me what really is the purpose of marriage. I mean, what is the purpose of a husband, and what is the purpose of a wife?
If I had a redo, I might opt for the Marriage Strike.
Especially now that my jurisdiction does not require marriage for most joint rights.
If one is not going to have kids, marriage is of questionable value and may actually be a liability.
Someone to pay my extravagant shopping bills and feed me bonbons.
Attitude like this is one of the many reasons why all women in general are thought of the way they are which is lazy gold diggers only good for sex if one is lucky......
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Well I hate to bore everyone to death in this clever thread (;D) but historically, marriage is a couple standing up before the community and announcing their intentions to stay together for the rest of their lives. They had close friends and family standing up with them supporting them and indicating they know the couple well and approve of the union.
And from there, children were born and if one of the couple flaked out there were legal repercussions to going back on the deal of remaining together for their whole lives. Most often it was the man who tried to leave, and that gave women with children the right to demand he make good on his promise and support his children. Sometimes it was the woman, and that gave the man the right to also demand the same.
So that's what marriage is about. It's about two people standing up before the public and announcing their intentions to each other that they will be together til death do us part, and then they can be comfortable planning their life around that promise and not getting burned.
Yes there are many reasons why people marry and it's completely subjective to say whether it's for the right or wrong reasons but the general rule is to love, cherish and spend the rest of their lives with one another
Actually, you don't need a piece of paper to " love, cherish and spend the rest of their lives with one another".
But our society says you need to get married. Your friends are all married. Your family keeps asking when you're going to tie the knot, lots of people feel depressed, even worthless because they are not married.
Women want a big wedding and a rock on their finger, couples want a social acceptance, law is protecting marriage. There are goodies like insurance, pensions, tax deductions, and divided assets after divorce.
Married men are seen as more mature/responsible/normal/trustworthy/reliable/ethical/etc. in many circles, thus getting married (especially to a wife who is good at social gatherings with colleagues/bosses/etc.) can be very advantageous to one's career in politics or the corporate world.
In the USA, legally and socially it still makes a big difference to be married. While couples who don't marry do not face the same level of discrimination that they did 20-50 years ago, domestic partners are simply not recognized the same as married couples. Our society values and assumes that married couples have implied rights to information and access to legal, financial and medical information that non-married couples do not.
Actually, you don't need a piece of paper to " love, cherish and spend the rest of their lives with one another".
But our society says you need to get married. Your friends are all married. Your family keeps asking when you're going to tie the knot, lots of people feel depressed, even worthless because they are not married.
Women want a big wedding and a rock on their finger, couples want a social acceptance, law is protecting marriage. There are goodies like insurance, pensions, tax deductions, and divided assets after divorce.
Married men are seen as more mature/responsible/normal/trustworthy/reliable/ethical/etc. in many circles, thus getting married (especially to a wife who is good at social gatherings with colleagues/bosses/etc.) can be very advantageous to one's career in politics or the corporate world.
In the USA, legally and socially it still makes a big difference to be married. While couples who don't marry do not face the same level of discrimination that they did 20-50 years ago, domestic partners are simply not recognized the same as married couples. Our society values and assumes that married couples have implied rights to information and access to legal, financial and medical information that non-married couples do not.
Yes I know I don't need a piece of paper to know that I " love, cherish and want to spend the rest of my life with YOU " my love
However no seriously that was just the general rule as to why i believe many get married and I mentioned there are many reasons why which you kindly put some very good reasons why they do so thank you
And as you know ( me being a Brit ) Apart from the society/family expectations and the relevant pressure I didn't know most of that especially the part that it can enhance your career and the " goodies " like the pension, tax etc so I really appreciate you sharing this my love
If honest most couples I know that are my age or close ( say 30-40 ) are NOT married now this is because they are not religious, " don't want to pay £25,000 for a piece of paper " ( my best mates reason ) or they quite simply don't see the advantage and as you know it holds no relevance to me personally
Thank you for such a great post
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