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Old 07-02-2017, 04:47 PM
 
Location: Northern California
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I can get out of it yes. but they will be taking my deposit which is a lot of money. And to look for a house as cheap as that in an expensive place is now getting hard, so i am beginning to look for an apartment but my emotions are every where and im very confused on how quick and unexpected it was

I am so sorry is it possible to advertise for a new flat mate? I am sorry you have this heartache to deal with, but life goes on.
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Old 07-02-2017, 04:49 PM
 
Location: Scottsdale, AZ
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You both need to figure out what you want to do.
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Old 07-02-2017, 04:50 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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You both need to figure out what you want to do.

He has.
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Old 07-02-2017, 04:50 PM
 
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I feel like crying every hour. i have no one to talk to plus
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Old 07-02-2017, 04:50 PM
 
Location: Central IL
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Sorry, OP...I can't stand jerks who don't know their own mind - they make grand plans like moving in together then at the last minute it gets a little too real and they leave you to pick up the pieces. If this break up is really going to happen, how about getting a roommate for the new place or moving in with a friend as options? I know time is short but you'll need to keep all possibilities in mind. And you'll need to really push your bf - does he WANT to break up or HAS he broken up with you? If the lease is in your name then tell him to pack up and move out.
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Old 07-02-2017, 04:53 PM
 
Location: Middle of the valley
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It's better this happens now then when you are married or have children.

Little consolation, I know.

Imagine him doing this same thing while you're pregnant.
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Old 07-02-2017, 05:03 PM
 
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you would think at this age we should be open and adults, we have been going to couple counselling because part of the relationship was we dont open up to each other because we are scared. We have been seeing the counselling for 8 months and it has been working wonders. It turns out from two days ago he hasnt been so open after all
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Old 07-02-2017, 05:04 PM
 
Location: NNJ
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you would think at this age we should be open and adults, we have been going to couple counselling because part of the relationship was we dont open up to each other because we are scared. We have been seeing the counselling for 8 months and it has been working wonders. It turns out from two days ago he hasnt been so open after all
Oh well.... but you learned a lot in counseling... still valuable in life moving forward.

Yes.. better now than after marriage and children.
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Old 07-02-2017, 05:24 PM
 
Location: Brentwood, Tennessee
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I feel like crying every hour.
It doesn't help that he is acting like nothing has changed.

I sure wouldn't let him step into my shower anymore.

So to speak.
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Old 07-02-2017, 05:44 PM
 
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guys he is still emailing me about every movement he is doing like the usuals minus the cute talks. He still wants to be "friends"
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