Why is it ok to be with someone because their nice and not ok to be with someone because their rich
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"Don't you know that a man being rich is like a girl being pretty? You wouldn't marry a girl just because she's pretty, but my goodness, doesn't it help?"
---Marilyn Monroe as Lorelei Lee in 'Gentlemen Prefer Blondes' (1953)
Because it's a little skeevy, but whatever, I don't care about this stuff anymore like I used to, if both parties know what the deal is, who cares really. If some rich old dude wants some young eye candy and both know the deal, screw it. LOL.
It would never be a thing for me, but to each their own.
Why is it "ok" to be in a relationship or to date etc because the person is nice, or you like how they or or their personality etc. But if your with someone because their rich or famous etc its frowned upon. In both scenarios the person likes or is with the person because they benefit from it, they are in a sense "using" the other person
Because those who can "get" a rich person are deemed "sleazy", "superficial", etc. by those who can't. It's one of a number of social control phenomena, designed to regulate behavior. I'm not sure it's that effective, though.
Why is it "ok" to be in a relationship or to date etc because the person is nice, or you like how they or or their personality etc. But if your with someone because their rich or famous etc its frowned upon. In both scenarios the person likes or is with the person because they benefit from it, they are in a sense "using" the other person
The person labelled "nice" supposedly behaves as a decent human being, but "rich" refers to possessions, and the person with riches could be a dirtbag from Jump Street.
Why is it "ok" to be in a relationship or to date etc because the person is nice, or you like how they or or their personality etc. But if your with someone because their rich or famous etc its frowned upon. In both scenarios the person likes or is with the person because they benefit from it, they are in a sense "using" the other person
Because they're gold diggers latching onto someone else's success.
I can be with anyone for any reason(s) I choose. I don't need outsiders to agree or disagree with me - that's a non-issue.
I think everyone has a bunch of "wants", and the person they date is a combination of factors.
There is no one trait that attracted me to my husband, it was the mix that made him irresistible to me.
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Why is it "ok" to be in a relationship or to date etc because the person is nice, or you like how they or or their personality etc. But if your with someone because their rich or famous etc its frowned upon. In both scenarios the person likes or is with the person because they benefit from it, they are in a sense "using" the other person
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Originally Posted by yologuy01
no, just wondering why we tend to view people differently who are with someone for their money vs who are with someone because their nice for example. In both situations they are "using" the other person for their own benefit
one word "perception". we tend to forget that people are living beings with wants and needs of their own, and are generally looking for someone to fill those needs. lets say that i were to hook up with someone like sandra bullock, me being an unknown person getting by in life, her being rich and famous. people would tend to look at that relationship as me being the proverbial gold digger and just chasing her for her money.
but our relationship might just be much more than that, but people wont see any deeper than what they perceive on the surface.
in the end, every relationship is one of using the other person to fill needs and wants that we have.
Why is it "ok" to be in a relationship or to date etc because the person is nice, or you like how they or or their personality etc. But if your with someone because their rich or famous etc its frowned upon. In both scenarios the person likes or is with the person because they benefit from it, they are in a sense "using" the other person
Ok let me spin this around.
Why is it "ok" to be in a relationship or to date etc because the person is nice, or you like how they or or their personality etc. But if your with someone because they're hot and sexy and want their sex etc its frowned upon. In both scenarios the person likes or is with the person because they benefit from it, they are in a sense "using" the other person
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