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I'm just like you except I study the celts not the Germans,I also appear as a hippy but am conservative I guess.
You sound to me like a stormfront (white supremacy) type,German paganism,ancient Germanic culture and languages,right wing, they really love all that stuff.If you're not one of them I apologise but you could definately look into German forums,forums for ancient Germanic culture,you have a much higher chance of finding someone akin than you did 100 years ago.
I'm just like you except I study the celts not the Germans,I also appear as a hippy but am conservative I guess.
You sound to me like a stormfront (white supremacy) type,German paganism,ancient Germanic culture and languages,right wing, they really love all that stuff.If you're not one of them I apologise but you could definately look into German forums,forums for ancient Germanic culture,you have a much higher chance of finding someone akin than you did 100 years ago.
I'm not one of those stormfront types, but I can see why someone would mistake me for one. This problem actually dates back quite a while. In high school some people actually thought I was a Nazi due to my interests and German heritage (born in Germany, my father is from there). For example, I remember one incident when somebody carved a huge swasitka on the locker room wall and I subsequently got asked a million times if I had done it (I didn't). It also really doesn't help that my great-grandfather actually served in the German military during the final days of WW2 (he was conscripted against his will). Perhaps my seemingly high potential to be mistaken for one of those stormfront types is another reason why I'm still single.
An Ohio state school, and it's a hippie school? I can't believe that. Where did Ohio get all the hippies? No, there's gotta be all different kinds of students in a state school; there always are. It's a matter of finding them.
Ohio's full of hippies, Ruth, it's like any other large state. (I'm guessing OU? Miami?)
I'm beginning to wonder if the OP is writing off all the people not like him as hippies and liberals. It's great to find your niche in college, but it's also great to expose yourself to new ideas and get along with different kinds of people. Looking only for people just like you and writing everyone off as a nut isn't help. Finding people with common interests doesn't mean they'll be exactly the same as you are.
Ohio's full of hippies, Ruth, it's like any other large state. (I'm guessing OU? Miami?)
I'm beginning to wonder if the OP is writing off all the people not like him as hippies and liberals. It's great to find your niche in college, but it's also great to expose yourself to new ideas and get along with different kinds of people. Looking only for people just like you and writing everyone off as a nut isn't help. Finding people with common interests doesn't mean they'll be exactly the same as you are.
You're not giving the OP good advice here. When he's in his 30's, women will want to be with him, no doubt. But it'll be for the wrong reasons. Instead of wanting him because they naturally desire him for sex, they'll want him because they see him a reliable provider to settle down with. And therein lies the rub. Because there is no natural desire, it won't be a strong relationship, since it's not anchored by that natural desire on the woman's part. Which means constant arguments and disagreements over trivial matters, like dishes in the sink. Which means neither he nor his partner will be happy.
This is actually a significant fear of mine. I strongly believe that I am missing out on a critical period with respect to love/sex/relationships. In linguistics, it is well-known that when a young child fails to acquire a language naturally before a certain age, then he will never be able to speak more than a few words, if any at all. The same can be applied to this problem of mine. If I fail to secure means of developing healthy relationships with women when I am young enough, it may (or will) cause problems down the road. I already feel so far behind, that my skills and knowledge in this department are stunted. Who knows how bad it will be in ten years. I really hope I can still end up with a girl who actually is my type and cares about me, rather than someone who's just looking to settle.
This is actually a significant fear of mine. I strongly believe that I am missing out on a critical period with respect to love/sex/relationships. In linguistics, it is well-known that when a young child fails to acquire a language naturally before a certain age, then he will never be able to speak more than a few words, if any at all. The same can be applied to this problem of mine. If I fail to secure means of developing healthy relationships with women when I am young enough, it may (or will) cause problems down the road. I already feel so far behind, that my skills and knowledge in this department are stunted. Who knows how bad it will be in ten years. I really hope I can still end up with a girl who actually is my type and cares about me, rather than someone who's just looking to settle.
Dude, you're 21, lol.
Plenty of people your age (and even older) have no idea about love/sex/relationships, but eventually do fine and end up meeting someone (perhaps even eventually marrying them).
This is actually a significant fear of mine. I strongly believe that I am missing out on a critical period with respect to love/sex/relationships. In linguistics, it is well-known that when a young child fails to acquire a language naturally before a certain age, then he will never be able to speak more than a few words, if any at all. The same can be applied to this problem of mine. If I fail to secure means of developing healthy relationships with women when I am young enough, it may (or will) cause problems down the road. I already feel so far behind, that my skills and knowledge in this department are stunted. Who knows how bad it will be in ten years. I really hope I can still end up with a girl who actually is my type and cares about me, rather than someone who's just looking to settle.
Don't worry, OP. It only takes one good girlfriend to catch up. Don't catastrophize. You're not doomed to lifelong relationship failure. You're only 21, for heaven's sake! It's not as unusual as you think for some people to have their first relationship in their early-to-mid 20's. Some don't have their first relationship until after they graduate.
About the bolded, that is not a well-known fact or principle in linguistics at all. Could you clarify? People learn languages and become fluent in them at all ages. Do you mean, if a child fails to acquire speech at all by a certain age?
Plenty of people your age (and even older) have no idea about love/sex/relationships, but eventually do fine and end up meeting someone (perhaps even eventually marrying them).
I'm just not sure if I'd find anyone properly suited to me. The problem I have presents itself as a sort of paradox. On one hand I have long hair, smoke weed, and play in a rock band. This, my outward appearance alone will attract more hippie-type girls. However, these same sorts of women, though they can be quite pretty, tend to party a lot and sleep around. I just wouldn't be able to handle a girl like that.
By contrast, if would I go for women who were more quiet and studious, like myself, there would also be problems. These girls tend to be harder to find, and even if I found one she may be turned off by my appearance, or my weed habit. Thus, I'm torn between going by my outward appearance versus my own personality. I doubt there's very many women out there who are attractive, don't party or sleep around, listen to psychedelic rock, smoke weed, don't subscribe to the leftist dogma that is present everywhere where I live, AND happen to be into things like history, Germanic culture, and linguistics. That type of woman does not exist, I'm almost universally convinced.
You should start hanging out at sites and forums for Germanic Heathens and find yourself a fierce Teutonic Valkyrie who would share your interests Frankly, if I was not married already, I'd be interested too.
Most of these young German ladies are pretty left-wing though, so you'll have to come to terms with that.
This is actually a significant fear of mine. I strongly believe that I am missing out on a critical period with respect to love/sex/relationships. In linguistics, it is well-known that when a young child fails to acquire a language naturally before a certain age, then he will never be able to speak more than a few words, if any at all. The same can be applied to this problem of mine. If I fail to secure means of developing healthy relationships with women when I am young enough, it may (or will) cause problems down the road. I already feel so far behind, that my skills and knowledge in this department are stunted. Who knows how bad it will be in ten years. I really hope I can still end up with a girl who actually is my type and cares about me, rather than someone who's just looking to settle.
Rubbish! I started learning German at 20-something and have mastered it just fine.
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Don't catastrophize. You're not doomed to lifelong relationship failure. You're only 21, for heaven's sake! It's not as unusual as you think for some people to have their first relationship in their early-to-mid 20's. Some don't have their first relationship until after they graduate.
Frankly, if I was not married already, I'd be interested too.
