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Are you guys for real? Weekends is usually couples time, no? Waking up together, not having to rush, staying up late together. Every time I have a bf and express that I do something alone on a weekend, I'll get disappointment in their looks.
Same with all my friends and their partners.
It is NOT unusual that you go to your partners place Fridays after work and stay there until Monday morning. NOT unusual at all.
For sure, I agree.
However, that doesn't mean it works for all people.
Are you guys for real? Weekends is usually couples time, no? Waking up together, not having to rush, staying up late together. Every time I have a bf and express that I do something alone on a weekend, I'll get disappointment in their looks.
Same with all my friends and their partners.
It is NOT unusual that you go to your partners place Fridays after work and stay there until Monday morning. NOT unusual at all.
My sentiments too. This is a two year long relationship.
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For sure, I agree.
However, that doesn't mean it works for all people.
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Are you guys for real? Weekends is usually couples time, no? Waking up together, not having to rush, staying up late together. Every time I have a bf and express that I do something alone on a weekend, I'll get disappointment in their looks.
Not all weekend, every weekend. People work during the week. There is lots of stuff that needs to be done on weekends. And lots of rushing around.
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FWIW OP, I don't think you're doing anything wrong. I just think that your idea of fun and togetherness is wayyy different than his idea of it.
In fact, from what you've posted on here thus far (him 'joking' with you that you should go home after sex and him telling you that he feels 'smothered' by your presence), I'm thinking that maybe his feelings for you could be changing...and not for the better. You guys have been dating for TWO YEARS. You both should still be in the 'honeymoon' stage of the relationship.
And remember when you said how you resent him because the way the current schedule is makes YOU happy? I'm thinking that maybe he has begun to resent you because of the way the current schedule is - meaning, he feels you're around too much...and he wants more alone time than you're willing to be happy with.
I think your plan of moving back home is solid. During these next 6 months, he will either MISS YOU and realize he DOES want MORE time with you, or....he will end up LIKING the fact that you're not around every week...and um, THAT will be the time that you'll need to reassess your relationship to see if he WANTS you in his life or not and to see if YOU want to stay in a relationship with a guy who really doesn't want to spend as much time with you as you want to spend with him.
Okay, I guess I have a warped idea of what being in a relationship is supposed to be like. Am I weird for wanting to be around him on the weekend? We've been dating over 2 years now.
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Not all weekend, every weekend. People work during the week. There is lots of stuff that needs to be done on weekends. And lots of rushing around.
When I am in love with a girl and we have been dating 2 years I want her around as much as possible. I would want some time doing my own thing but it was explained in the Op that she does give him time.
I just don't think he is as interested as you are. He might say he is to save your feelings but his actions don't back that up.
However, that doesn't mean it works for all people.
I didn't say it works for all people. But some here act as if it would be totally unreasonable and clingy to spend weekends together - as if OP wants something that's totally out of the norm. It isn't. It just doesn't seem to work for HIM.
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