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Maybe it is a Happily Ever After Love Story YET I think the OP is fine to read between the lines.
More information is needed: If the friend is very well off and the younger studmuffin is NOT there is a BIG motive here, and it seems odd to get married so quickly and after the cancer diagnoses.
Then again even IF that is the case he may genuinely care for her and it's a win/win for all involved.
It could be a codependency issue. There could be unsavory motives. Or he could just love her. People on the internet are not close enough to the situation or the people involved to say.
1. How much "older"? This guy has TWO children...he's probably no babe in the woods.
2. The OP has turned around and said his shock is actually about the willingness to take on an ill partner regardless of age, but stresses age and looks significantly in the first post. OP, would this not be shocking if she started out hot?
3. "He can have anyone he wants..." If you think he's somehow settling because the woman is (gasp!) older, well, perhaps not. You've picked the poor sick woman apart, so what are the guy's faults? It may be a far more equal relationship than you're envisioning.
4. How the hell could it be about money when illness tends to be hella expensive? Even with insurance, there's generally a co-pay and there are caps...and we're talking cancer here.
5. If the woman were younger and she got with the much older guy even though he got incredibly sick, would there still be these ZOMG hands-to-cheeks-and-mouth-in-a-giant-O, "it must be for money"-type responses? Legitimate question. I mean maybe some people's answer to this will be "yes." So I'm asking.
6. If things went this quickly and the woman were "young and hot", would anybody be freaking out over how quickly they married? Or in that case would it just be a beautiful whirlwind romance? If not that latter, then why would it be weird that things happened the way they did for these two people, the way it might with any other two people?
1. How much "older"? This guy has TWO children...he's probably no babe in the woods.
2. The OP has turned around and said his shock is actually about the willingness to take on an ill partner regardless of age, but stresses age and looks significantly in the first post. OP, would this not be shocking if she started out hot?
3. "He can have anyone he wants..." If you think he's somehow settling because the woman is (gasp!) older, well, perhaps not. You've picked the poor sick woman apart, so what are the guy's faults? It may be a far more equal relationship than you're envisioning.
4. How the hell could it be about money when illness tends to be hella expensive? Even with insurance, there's generally a co-pay and there are caps...and we're talking cancer here.
5. If the woman were younger and she got with the much older guy even though he got incredibly sick, would there still be these ZOMG hands-to-cheeks-and-mouth-in-a-giant-O, "it must be for money"-type responses? Legitimate question. I mean maybe some people's answer to this will be "yes." So I'm asking.
6. If things went this quickly and the woman were "young and hot", would anybody be freaking out over how quickly they married? Or in that case would it just be a beautiful whirlwind romance? If not that latter, then why would it be weird that things happened the way they did for these two people, the way it might with any other two people?
The bolded is more about the OP's values and worldview, or dating worldview, being challenged. It has nothing to do with the guy in question, who is listening to his heart. It sounds like maybe the woman got really lucky. Maybe literally a match made in heaven. SOMEbody was helping that woman out, watching over her, it seems...
My friend who is 42 with 2 kids divorced her husband and met a younger very good looking man (also has 2 kids). She was diagnosed with cancer a few months later and she moved into his house as she went through intense chemo and was so sick. Became very skinny, lost her hair etc....he then married her and posts on Facebook that she is the most amazing person he has ever known and he loves her so much and she is the strongest person etc.....it all seems like some romantic/tear jerker movie. I want to really believe he is really that good of a guy. But it’s hard to believe there is really a young good looking guy who can have anyone, that would go through all of this for a women he had only know a short time?
I’d believe it... my MIL went through Breast cancer starting in her 40s and sadly is reaching the end of her fight nearly 15 years later. She’s an amazing person and if was single while going through this I’m sure she would have had plenty of suitors. Toughest person I’ve ever met!
1. How much "older"? This guy has two children...he's probably no babe in the woods.
2. The op has turned around and said his shock is actually about the willingness to take on an ill partner regardless of age, but stresses age and looks significantly in the first post. Op, would this not be shocking if she started out hot?
3. "he can have anyone he wants..." if you think he's somehow settling because the woman is (gasp!) older, well, perhaps not. You've picked the poor sick woman apart, so what are the guy's faults? It may be a far more equal relationship than you're envisioning.
4. How the hell could it be about money when illness tends to be hella expensive? Even with insurance, there's generally a co-pay and there are caps...and we're talking cancer here.
5. If the woman were younger and she got with the much older guy even though he got incredibly sick, would there still be these zomg hands-to-cheeks-and-mouth-in-a-giant-o, "it must be for money"-type responses? Legitimate question. I mean maybe some people's answer to this will be "yes." so i'm asking.
6. If things went this quickly and the woman were "young and hot", would anybody be freaking out over how quickly they married? Or in that case would it just be a beautiful whirlwind romance? If not that latter, then why would it be weird that things happened the way they did for these two people, the way it might with any other two people?
So we don't know the age of the man who took her into his house or apt after a couple of months of dating? Or his profession or job?
No.
And even without that knowledge - for all we know, the guy is 5 years younger - we have a nearly unilateral decision that this man is either codependent or a gold-digger. (That latter without knowing HER financial status, either.)
I still wonder if this story were about a young woman who was gorgeous, THEN got sick and the man swept her up and married her very quickly, would people be rallying about how beautiful a love story it was? But I may just be in "a mood." Still...yeah...I wonder.
I mean think of the movie Sweet November. Aww! Who wasn't moved by that movie? Yet THIS story? Gold digger guy! Or desperate. Because ZOMGOlderWomanNotHot.
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Still...yeah...I wonder.
