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I've been dating my current bf for 3 months, we're both 25 and decided to take it to the next level. We had sex yesterday.
Unlike my other relationships, when we finally did it everything seem very awkward. I don't want to offend him but it was really lame.
- He didn't sound too confident (I can tell easily when someone doesn't sound confident)
- Lack of enthusiasm
- Slow to fast all of the sudden
- Took him 4 times to stick it in correctly
Afterwards it got quiet for several minutes till he broke the silence asking if I had a good time. I lied saying yes, that it was ok. I think he could sense this (hence why the asking) because he excused himself shortly afterwards and said he had to go.
I never had such an awkward moment with a bf before. I know it's not convenient to lie in a relationship but by the look on his face, I didn't want to hurt him. Is it possible I was this guy's first time?
I've been dating my current bf for 3 months, we're both 25 and decided to take it to the next level. We had sex yesterday.
Unlike my other relationships, when we finally did it everything seem very awkward. I don't want to offend him but it was really lame.
- He didn't sound too confident (I can tell easily when someone doesn't sound confident)
- Lack of enthusiasm
- Slow to fast all of the sudden
- Took him 4 times to stick it in correctly
Afterwards it got quiet for several minutes till he broke the silence asking if I had a good time. I lied saying yes, that it was ok. I think he could sense this (hence why the asking) because he excused himself shortly afterwards and said he had to go.
I never had such an awkward moment with a bf before. I know it's not convenient to lie in a relationship but by the look on his face, I didn't want to hurt him. Is it possible I was this guy's first time?
Yes.
It helps to be kind and enthusiastic in these situations. I understand awkwardness and disappointment, but what did you do, just lie there expectantly, waiting for him to figure things out?
It's supposed to be a reciprocal action. You're there together. It's not a stage for him to perform and then receive a medal at the end (or not).
So ... whether your lying to him is ok isn't really the question you should ask yourself here.
I tried helping by telling him to go a bit faster when he was too slow. Then he goes too fast as if acting it out from a movie. By the 3rd time he couldn't put it in right, I indicated him where. That's how he finally got it right on the 4th time.
I tried helping by telling him to go a bit faster when he was too slow. Then he goes too fast as if acting it out from a movie. By the 3rd time he couldn't put it in right, I indicated him where. That's how he finally got it right on the 4th time.
It sometimes takes time and patience to find your groove.
But if it is his first time, you will need to be VERY patient.
Your reaction is very important, because if you are dismissive or critical in any way, you could set him back and make him not want to continue.
I tried helping by telling him to go a bit faster when he was too slow. Then he goes too fast as if acting it out from a movie. By the 3rd time he couldn't put it in right, I indicated him where. That's how he finally got it right on the 4th time.
Practice makes perfect, lots and lots of practice. Just sayin...
He's your boyfriend. You should know if he was a virgin. But even if he wasn't, young men frequently are lackluster in the bedroom. With more experience they become more confident.
I don't think it was a big deal.. there wasn't any malice in your little fib. But as others have said.... first time sex with a new partner can be awkward. Give it some time... work through it together. Exploring together can be a fun learning experience... for both.
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