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Well, i am married with kids, love my wife, lately it was a bit hard situation,
and while ago i met some girl, by business. first moment i saw her, i felt in love, she is awesome.
I a trying very hard to concentrate on my wife and to show her much more love then before, it made our relationship better, but every time
i talk or see the other girl(only since we are business connected) i feel broke again.
What can i do? how can i get over it?? btw she married and btw she likes me but have no idea in what way..
I had 1-2 situations like this one about some girls in my marriage and i always found a way to get over it, now i am a bit afraid its very strong.
My goal is very clear, I want to be in love completly with my wife and be just a friend to the other one. How can i achieve it? please
Well, i am married with kids, love my wife, lately it was a bit hard situation,
and while ago i met some girl, by business. first moment i saw her, i felt in love, she is awesome.
I a trying very hard to concentrate on my wife and to show her much more love then before, it made our relationship better, but every time
i talk or see the other girl(only since we are business connected) i feel broke again.
What can i do? how can i get over it?? btw she married and btw she likes me but have no idea in what way..
I had 1-2 situations like this one about some girls in my marriage and i always found a way to get over it, now i am a bit afraid its very strong.
My goal is very clear, I want to be in love completly with my wife and be just a friend to the other one. How can i achieve it? please
You have to minimize contact with the "other girl" and turn all thoughts to your wife when you find yourself fantasizing about her.
Commitment is a choice, not a feeling, so just keep making the right choice.
And work on whatever made your marriage "a bit hard situation" lately.
I am guessing that what makes it a " hard situation " is this woman that the OP is suddenly smitten with.
Maybe. Maybe not.
If he and his wife are experiencing the typical stressors that many married couples with kids have, that new girl in the picture starts to look REAL tempting. It's textbook.
She "likes" OP, but not "that way". Otherwise he would know.
She is just a pleasant coworker. Nothing more.
And OP is thinking not only to wreak his own marriage, but endanger hers too.
But, hey - maybe that's OK in his timezone...
Thanks for the replies!
Replying to Birbi, i can't minimise contact with her, i don't want to explain why for the privacy reasons, but i do must to be in contact with her, lets say for business.
I know i must concentrate on wife and kids, no i don't want to ruin mine or her marriage!
I want and i need to learn to be only friends with her.
She is pretty and very pleasant, and as you say, the exact type of girl i would take, but my wife as well my exact type, i did felt for her very much, but now its a bit less, but its probably because the daily stress.
I am trying to tell myself that the "dream girl" its just a pretty face, i don't really know her and probably if i would merry her in some other dimension then after 3-5-10 years she would be just a person in my house, so she doesn't better that my wife.
I telling myself this stuff all day long.
But how can i convince myself? and overpower the feeling i have? i must do it i have no choice
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