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My partner often works about noonish until late at night, and I work a regular daytime schedule. Our weekends overlap (he works Sunday, I work Friday, but we have Saturday off together.) It isn't perfect, but we get what we need of time with one another.
I've learned the hard way that not only do I not want to be with a military partner, I don't even want to be with a veteran. It's just that there are things I've found too common to someone who has been through the breaking down and rebuilding of boot camp, let alone combat, that are not compatible to my preferences. No disrespect, just not right for my little corner of reality. The bennies, such as access to the VA loan for home buying, even that isn't worth some of what I've encountered, like ongoing health issues from old injuries, wrangles with the VA over healthcare, but mostly some of the nearly PTSD like symptoms like hypervigilance and the "protect my woman" mentality. I don't particularly require nor value a partner who is forever seeing danger everywhere and wanting to be my bodyguard. That piece has been present in most vets that I've known, they want to be a protector. I've been a military wife. The culture just isn't for me.
Similarly, I doubt if I'd be interested in a police officer, or anything like that.
Also, I don't need a guy to be ambitious or a high earner, but I like stability. I want to know that he is at least able to work a given job for a long time, and make enough to pull his own weight. So, not into job-hoppers. But it's worth mentioning I'm only involved with older men, so I don't think that's unfair to ask of someone in their late 40's to early 60's.
All that aside, "turn ons" I'd say a person who, whatever they're doing, is doing what they always wanted to. Like anyone who's managed to follow a dream and make a decent living at it, I admire that a lot.
After some thought on the matter, a "turn on" type job, for me, would be musicians. I know a few musicians, and I think it's awesome, that they're successful at what they do.
I'm just thinking of the movie, "The Secretary." I liked it, until the guy flaked out and wigged out and she had to sit in his office chair peeing on herself for like 3 days or somesuch just to get him to see sense. Story took a real stupid turn, there, IMO.
Never love a writer or academic. I lock myself away for days at a time working on stuff no-one else cares about. By the time I emerge, even my spoken sentences have footnotes and references.
In another life I would like to meet a bespectacled librarian with an RP English accent. I'd talk myself out of it before I let anything happen though.
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