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Long story short my girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. She didn't know if breaking up or staying together is right. She said she needed time and space and if it was meant to be it was meant to be and if not we would move on. I still really want her back and I've made changes in my life to become a better person. We have remained in contact texting every 3-5 days and they're usually short conversations. I asked her to catch up over coffee and she replied that would be nice and she would let me know next week when is free because she is having family health issues this week.
I am going to be confidant and act normal. Maybe flirt with her a little but I'm not gonna rush anything.
My question is what do I do after this meet up? Do I wait a week or two then suggest a dinner or a movie? Or do I bring up a possible reconciliation? Is this a good sign that she is still interested? I'm just confused what to do after and I can't really find any advice. You could tell me to just move on but that's not what I want to do right now.
Long story short my girlfriend broke up with me 2 months ago. She didn't know if breaking up or staying together is right. She said she needed time and space and if it was meant to be it was meant to be and if not we would move on. I still really want her back and I've made changes in my life to become a better person. We have remained in contact texting every 3-5 days and they're usually short conversations. I asked her to catch up over coffee and she replied that would be nice and she would let me know next week when is free because she is having family health issues this week.
I am going to be confidant and act normal. Maybe flirt with her a little but I'm not gonna rush anything.
My question is what do I do after this meet up? Do I wait a week or two then suggest a dinner or a movie? Or do I bring up a possible reconciliation? Is this a good sign that she is still interested? I'm just confused what to do after and I can't really find any advice. You could tell me to just move on but that's not what I want to do right now.
A week is too long.
If she actually does meet you, you should capitalize on that momentum.
However ...
Be prepared to ride the on-again, off-again roller coaster. She probably still has the same issues she had before, and like I said in your last thread you could be the best boyfriend ever and that still won't guarantee success because, as you described it, she does not sound in love with you.
She dumped you. Don't waste any more of your life or time or money on that woman. Move on, you just come off as weak and needy continually texting. Dont contact her any more or offer to help if she wants you to do something for her. You want some revenge take out another woman, or someone she doesnt like. That will get her.
I'm going to be honest with you, Ryan...I feel like this has bad news written all over it. You're already showing her that she can take off, then come back and you'll say "yes". Even if you think you're covering your eagerness, your actions speak louder than your words. IOW, texting every 3-5 days? She checks in, you respond with "Yep, still here"? Well...she's not worried. She KNOWS you're there to lap up any crumbs she drops.
She has zero respect for you and she sure isn't lusting after you.
Dump her entirely. No more texts. Or answer once every couple of months or something until she finally gets the hint and goes away. REALLY move on. You won't be getting this one back. For months now she's had an opportunity every three days to try to get back together. She hasn't. That speaks volumes. Your presence makes her still feel wanted...but she doesn't want you. Don't you deserve more?
After my girlfriend broke up with me 2 and 1/2 months ago she agreed to meet me for coffee. Well technically she agreed to meet up 3 weeks ago and never followed through, I then went 2 weeks no contact. After the two weeks she sent me one of those "reminder" texts about one of our old memories. A week after, I asked her if she had my baseball glove that I left at her place and she did. I asked her last night if she wanted to get coffee and bring it. She agreed. It went pretty well I'd say. Nothing about the breakup was mentioned besides a few good memories about us. She wasn't "flirty" but she asked questions and seemed attentive. We only stayed for a half hour cause we both had things to do. I wouldn't call it a "date" because I'm not sure she thought of it as a date. Later in the day I texted her saying it was good seeing you she said, it was good seeing you too. I replied with a smily face and got nothing back. So where to I go from here? Do i wait for her to contact me next? Do I ask her to get lunch next week? Did she only agree to meet because she felt guilty? Your input is appreciated
After my girlfriend broke up with me 2 and 1/2 months ago she agreed to meet me for coffee. Well technically she agreed to meet up 3 weeks ago and never followed through, I then went 2 weeks no contact. After the two weeks she sent me one of those "reminder" texts about one of our old memories. A week after, I asked her if she had my baseball glove that I left at her place and she did. I asked her last night if she wanted to get coffee and bring it. She agreed. It went pretty well I'd say. Nothing about the breakup was mentioned besides a few good memories about us. She wasn't "flirty" but she asked questions and seemed attentive. We only stayed for a half hour cause we both had things to do. I wouldn't call it a "date" because I'm not sure she thought of it as a date. Later in the day I texted her saying it was good seeing you she said, it was good seeing you too. I replied with a smily face and got nothing back. So where to I go from here? Do i wait for her to contact me next? Do I ask her to get lunch next week? Did she only agree to meet because she felt guilty? Your input is appreciated
You move on.
She met to bring you something of yours that she still had. She is not into you. Please understand that.
We really have nothing Ryan. We don't know the entire situation.
She DIDN'T respond to your smiley face, which could be something or it could be nothing.
If you want to be brazen, you could ask her out for coffee again to catch up more. She'd get the hint probably that you have an interest in rekindling the relationship making intentions known.
She will be quick to give you ques either way how she feels about it.
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You're already showing her that she can take off, then come back and you'll say "yes". Even if you think you're covering your eagerness, your actions speak louder than your words. IOW, texting every 3-5 days? She checks in, you respond with "Yep, still here"? Well...she's not worried. She KNOWS you're there to lap up any crumbs she drops.
Met ex girlfriend for coffee today, now what?
