She rather text than talk says she doesn't like talking? (women, engagement)
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I'm the same way. I absolutely hate holding the phone up to the side of my head and dealing with the awkward silence if the person ran out of things to say.
A person who doesn't communicate sufficiently is not a good fit, and one who withholds information is harboring power. This won't work in the long run, as there is a pressing struggle to communicate.
And she would talk to her ex for months?
Certainly not the right fit. Don't even try it. It won't end good. You are right to be wary. Set a moratorium (time to create a new method or to walk away) and follow through with walking away if this conundrum cannot be broken. There is nothing sweet or endearing about this. She cannot engage in intimacy save through an artificial method. I cannot imagine what physical intimacy looks like if emotional intimacy is this skewed.
Last edited by Kin Atoms; 05-14-2018 at 07:47 PM..
A person who doesn't communicate sufficiently is not a good fit, and one who withholds information is harboring power. This won't work in the long run, as their is a pressing struggle to communicate.
And she would talk to her ex for months?
Certainly not the right fit. Don't even try it. It won't end good. You are right to be wary. Set a moratorium (time to create a new method or to walk away) and follow through with walking away if this conundrum cannot be broken. There is nothing sweet or endearing about this. She cannot engage in intimacy save through an artificial method. I cannot imagine what physical intimacy looks like if emotional intimacy is this skewed.
I still don't understand how you can marry someone who won't talk to you, even when you're in the same room together and who refuses to discuss relationship issues. Why would someone go through with a marriage like that? OP never answered those questions.
I still don't understand how you can marry someone who won't talk to you, even when you're in the same room together and who refuses to discuss relationship issues. Why would someone go through with a marriage like that? OP never answered those questions.
I was reading through these post for a while and now i'm really thinking about this. I'm not gonna put too much effort into it. I'm gonna let it go and see where it goes. Like the saying goes "if you set it free and it comes back its meant to be if not it was never yours to begin with".
I was reading through these post for a while and now i'm really thinking about this. I'm not gonna put too much effort into it. I'm gonna let it go and see where it goes. Like the saying goes "if you set it free and it comes back its meant to be if not it was never yours to begin with".
This is a very strange relationship.
You can avoid it all you want OP, but it doesn't mean the problem doesn't exist. As someone else said, one cornerstone to a successful relationship is communication.
You can avoid it all you want OP, but it doesn't mean the problem doesn't exist. As someone else said, one cornerstone to a successful relationship is communication.
Yeah you are right the relationship did become strange
especially because i'm willing to talk things out
btw she's pregnant too thats another issue why i can't just leave
I'm not insecure because of others guys but i'm not stupid neither
You can avoid it all you want OP, but it doesn't mean the problem doesn't exist. As someone else said, one cornerstone to a successful relationship is communication.
Yeah, avoidance or "letting it go" isn't what ENGAGED COUPLES normally do..... It's something dating couples do, but once you're engaged, well, it's assumed you're at the point where you know it's a good fit, things are humming along relatively smoothly, the implication being that there's solid justification for getting engaged. Your relationship sounds far from solid, OP.
There are mixed results in this. I know many women who don't want a phone call and wouldn't pick up when the guy was calling even if they were interested and prefer to be texted.
There are mixed results in this. I know many women who don't want a phone call and wouldn't pick up when the guy was calling even if they were interested and prefer to be texted.
Mileage may vary.
Including your live-in fiance who is pregnant with your child? You know a lot of such women who won't take their guy's calls?
The pregnancy does complicate things, but you should still try to work things out with her. You should tell her that you like to talk things out and that you are willing to work through problems. If she will not talk things out and is not willing to work through problems, then your relationship is doomed.
If she wants a relationship with you, she needs to get help - you both need to go to couple's counseling and she needs to try.
If you accept her not speaking to you, you must be desperate in some way - it's emotional neglect and not healthy.
And it won't be healthy to raise a child in such an environment.
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and who refuses to discuss relationship issues. Why would someone go through with a marriage like that? OP never answered those questions.
