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Question for men and online dating. Let's say you go out with a girl and she likes you enough to keep going out with you, but you don't like her enough for anything serious. Why would you not just ask her out a few more times in hopes of getting 3rd or 4th date sex? Moral reasons, not worth the time and effort, or do you do It?
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I wouldn't likely know if there was potential for anything serious that soon, so, if I wanted to see her again, I'd ask her out again. Also, if we were into each other to keep seeing each other odds are we would have had sex by then. It doesn't make sense to me to "date" someone to just have sex with them, no reason to put up a facade just to get laid.
It doesn't make sense to me to "date" someone to just have sex with them, no reason to put up a facade just to get laid.
Thank you, timberline!
I dated a few ladies from personal ads, but sex wasn't on my mind. I wanted to meet somebody and have a chance to get out of the house after a divorce. But I know a few men, and quite a few women, who use personals just for sex.
I personally would still go out on the dates not because I hope to have sex with her but simply it sometimes takes a while to get to know a person enough to determine if it can be a serious relationship of not.
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Originally Posted by Berteau
Question for men and online dating. Let's say you go out with a girl and she likes you enough to keep going out with you, but you don't like her enough for anything serious. Why would you not just ask her out a few more times in hopes of getting 3rd or 4th date sex? Moral reasons, not worth the time and effort, or do you do It?
If I’ve decided that I’m not interested in spending any time in a serious relationship with you, I’m not going to play games and get your hopes up and intensified by giving a girl additional dates in hopes for sex. Contrary to popular opinion here, the Diss does have some morals and respect for women.
I wouldn't likely know if there was potential for anything serious that soon, so, if I wanted to see her again, I'd ask her out again. Also, if we were into each other to keep seeing each other odds are we would have had sex by then. It doesn't make sense to me to "date" someone to just have sex with them, no reason to put up a facade just to get laid.
This! If I'm not interested otherwise, why would I keep dating? Just to have sex with her? That's very shallow.
For a while, I had a string of post-third date ghosts. Color me grateful I never got close to sleeping with any of them if this kind of attitude is prevalent.
Life's lessons are really very simple. Here's an example of one: Use things and love people. Not the other way around.
^^^This is probably the best single piece of advice I have seen on this forum. Well done.
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