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Nah, it'll come out in conversation because some of them typically OVER-share on a first date. lol
Yes, I do do that sometimes. Oh well. There are lots of things that someone could potentially reject me for and lots of things that I reject other people for, so I’m not really bothered if you’d rather not date women with anxiety issues.
I know people like that. No need to pursue them. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Yeah, I don't understand why the OP is running into so many people on anti-anxiety meds. I don't know anyone of any age who uses those regularly. Most don't use them at all. This is not a generational issue, in my experience. If anything, the parents of the boomers were the ones who had a reputation for depending on valium to get through life--the women, especially. That 40's/50's thing about bad marriages, and women trapped in the home, or something.
IDK, maybe it's a regional thing? Where do you live, OP?
Yeah, I don't understand why the OP is running into so many people on anti-anxiety meds.
I do run into women who don't have any filter and just spill details about their personal medical issues in the first 10 minutes of talking. Those kinds of women often are on meds and can be a nightmare to be around, but not because of the meds. Just because they are often erratic.
But that kind of behavior also shows a general lack of discretion and bad-decision making anyway, OP. Not every person who is on meds will just advertise it like that. The ones who do without regard for whether it's appropriate are probably not worth your effort.
Yeah, I don't understand why the OP is running into so many people on anti-anxiety meds. I don't know anyone of any age who uses those regularly. Most don't use them at all. This is not a generational issue, in my experience. If anything, the parents of the boomers were the ones who had a reputation for depending on valium to get through life--the women, especially. That 40's/50's thing about bad marriages, and women trapped in the home, or something.
IDK, maybe it's a regional thing? Where do you live, OP?
50-something year old woman here. I know tons of people taking anxiety meds. Mostly women.
And I can totally see some insecure, anxiety-riddled single chick being an over-sharer. Totally.
I have to say, I think every woman I come across, that's unattached, has some kind of anxiety issue or problem. Usually they mention it in passing, about a certain drug they are taking for it.
I had dated a couple, and tolerated for so long because I wanted to gauge the level of severity. To evaluate how bad or well they are managing it.
I think it may become one of my new deal breakers if I get an inkling of someone showing the signs or even mentioning someone who has "panic attacks" or other anxiety related stuff.
Reason being, the last woman I was ONLY friends with, we got into an argument on something. She mouthed off to me disrespectfully...and when I called her out on it, she got seriously mad at me...and then stopped talking to me. She couldn't be reasoned with. Turns out she also has anxiety issues and hangs out with friends that takes med for such things.
To be honest, I think everyone is overmedicated these days.
One day, I mentioned that to some others that I may start calling it quits with these kinds of women. But some female friends chimed in to say I should be more sympathetic to these peoples' issues and have the patience to put up with it.
In fact, I know of a married woman that's very thankful to have a husband that puts up with her anxiety/panic attacks.
I onlyh ave ONE female friend that tells me, "NOPE, that person is OUT of my life if theyshow an inkling of instability...even frienships' She got no time for that.
I dunno, should I give tehse women a shot? Should I be sympathetic or write them of my life?
She is 100% correct.Look, we all go through things in life BUT not all of us need some type of medication to make it through those tough times...because there will ALWAYS be times when things are tough.Now being with someone who has to take medication for anxiety issues...well it isn't for everyone.I don't think that your friend is being rude or thoughtless.She is trying to save you from something that she probably has experienced or seen a close friend go through at some point in time and doesn't want you to go through that.You really need to know fully what you will be getting yourself into if you're going to date someone with anxiety issues...at least with someone who needs to take medications for it. If you can't deal with the extra ups and downs it will create in the relationship...then nope..you really should not date someone like that.
I mean, some people can feel anxiety on occasion. Like a job interview or some event that you're excited or anxious about.
I may be disliked for saying this, but, why take drugs for it? Seriously? That's where it becomes a deal breaker for me. People are so over-medicated it's sad.
If I hear the word "Xanax" or some pill that pops out of their vocabulary...I'm out.
Then be out, to be honest you sound awfully judgmental, and perhaps feel your above others. On a side note, what does your dad being a retired cop have to do with you not using marijuana? If your an adult, I don’t see how that would be the reason you don’t use marijuana ( of course perfectly fine to not do so, but if your an adult it would I think be out of just not wanting to use it— now if your 15 living under his roof that’s a different story)
Note- I have no personal interest strongly regarding the legal ( and moderate) use of marijuana
She is 100% correct.Look, we all go through things in life BUT not all of us need some type of medication to make it through those tough times...because there will ALWAYS be times when things are tough.Now being with someone who has to take medication for anxiety issues...well it isn't for everyone.I don't think that your friend is being rude or thoughtless.She is trying to save you from something that she probably has experienced or seen a close friend go through at some point in time and doesn't want you to go through that.You really need to know fully what you will be getting yourself into if you're going to date someone with anxiety issues...at least with someone who needs to take medications for it. If you can't deal with the extra ups and downs it will create in the relationship...then nope..you really should not date someone like that.
Yep...those types can be toxic in your life to dangerous levels. I knew of a woman like this that called the cops on her boyfriend, lying how he beat her.
And no, not being judgmental here, but asking is it really a good idea to be dating people with this kind of issue?
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