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Tomorrow's date is supposed to be much earlier since it's Sunday. So I won't be getting home at 11pm tomorrow like I would have tonight since it's a Saturday. It will be around 8pm since it's a work night and I have to work on Monday.
I hope it works out just fine.
Hey you know, a good lady is worth taking a few knocks for. All the best! Let us know how it goes.
Let’s see, you set aside limited free time that you could be doing something else, spend emotional energy getting psyched for the date, get prepared, only for it to be for naught and a lot of BS? Yeah let’s see you NOT get angry.
Disappointed yes, feeling let down yes. Maybe you are right about getting angry under the circumstances. We are only human after all.
she agreed to reschedule for tomorrow but I don't feel completely confident that we will see each other. Especially since it's the 2nd cancellation. That's why I agreed to go out on a sunday because I am not sure if she is dating someone else and don't know how to tell me.
The difference between this cancellation and the last one was this time she called instead of texting and rescheduled for the next day. Last time she sent a text and there was no reschedule date mentioned at all so let's see what happens tomorrow
If some of you ever do the online dating profiles thing, hopefully you don't ever put the word "understanding" in there to describe yourself.
No one needs to make a habit of canceling or accept someone's making a habit of canceling. But if someone is sick or in pain an hour or 30 minutes before our date, it doesn't matter about the short notice--some things can't be helped. I can't really tell a migraine when to come. The reason for canceling should be just as important as the fact that someone canceled.
And I can understand if someone had a crappy day at work and doesn't want to go out, although they need to contact you and let you know--not you contacting them and their being like "Oh, I'm in my jammies." But if the person did contact me an hour before and said, "I had a bad day, can we do this some other time?" I might feel some type of way, but I'm not going to block them and start calling them "flaky," especially if that's the first time canceling a date, just because they were looking forward to the date earlier in the day when the day wasn't going as badly yet. Who wants to go out with someone who is down or in a bad mood because they had a crappy day?
Honestly, this is the type of stuff I keep referring to in this forum when I'm talking about people's standards and dating/relationships nowadays not even being worth my effort. People just overreact to and over-read into everything nowadays. I have no idea how you'd ever satisfy anyone.
If some of you ever do the online dating profiles thing, hopefully you don't ever put the word "understanding" in there to describe yourself.
No one needs to make a habit of canceling or accept someone's making a habit of canceling. But if someone is sick or in pain an hour or 30 minutes before our date, it doesn't matter about the short notice--some things can't be helped. I can't really tell a migraine when to come. The reason for canceling should be just as important as the fact that someone canceled.
And I can understand if someone had a crappy day at work and doesn't want to go out, although they need to contact you and let you know--not you contacting them and their being like "Oh, I'm in my jammies." But if the person did contact me an hour before and said, "I had a bad day, can we do this some other time?" I might feel some type of way, but I'm not going to block them and start calling them "flaky," especially if that's the first time canceling a date, just because they were looking forward to the date earlier in the day when the day wasn't going as badly yet. Who wants to go out with someone who is down or in a bad mood because they had a crappy day?
Honestly, this is the type of stuff I keep referring to in this forum when I'm talking about people's standards and dating/relationships nowadays not even being worth my effort. People just overreact to and over-read into everything nowadays. I have no idea how you'd ever satisfy anyone.
You certainly have the right to react however you want in that situation, but I had enough information to conclude that he was definitely being a flake and he deserved to be blocked. Period.
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Originally Posted by rensational
If some of you ever do the online dating profiles thing, hopefully you don't ever put the word "understanding" in there to describe yourself.
No one needs to make a habit of canceling or accept someone's making a habit of canceling. But if someone is sick or in pain an hour or 30 minutes before our date, it doesn't matter about the short notice--some things can't be helped. I can't really tell a migraine when to come. The reason for canceling should be just as important as the fact that someone canceled.
And I can understand if someone had a crappy day at work and doesn't want to go out, although they need to contact you and let you know--not you contacting them and their being like "Oh, I'm in my jammies." But if the person did contact me an hour before and said, "I had a bad day, can we do this some other time?" I might feel some type of way, but I'm not going to block them and start calling them "flaky," especially if that's the first time canceling a date, just because they were looking forward to the date earlier in the day when the day wasn't going as badly yet. Who wants to go out with someone who is down or in a bad mood because they had a crappy day?
Honestly, this is the type of stuff I keep referring to in this forum when I'm talking about people's standards and dating/relationships nowadays not even being worth my effort. People just overreact to and over-read into everything nowadays. I have no idea how you'd ever satisfy anyone.
I have standards for someone I choose to give valuable time to that are at keeping their commitment or giving me a reason and plenty of notice when they cancel, and I’m “overreacting”? I have had far too many girls flake and play that BS with me to have any patience for it. If you are straight with me and say I had a bad day, I MIGHT give a woman another opportunity if you are willing to show me you want that opportunity by reaching out to me with a plan, though I’d definitely not be inclined to. If the woman don’t show me they want the opportunity by being proactive, she’s on the discard pile and she can kiss my , because I have no patience for flakes being old as I am and played too much.
One more cancellation and that will probably be it for me. The fact that I am willing to come out on a sunday in 100 degree weather shows that I really like her so she better not cancel tomorrow.
With your attitude, I can see why she cancelled. I guess it's a good thing you didn't live 70 to 90 years ago when homes didn't have air-conditioning.
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Let’s see, you set aside limited free time that you could be doing something else, spend emotional energy getting psyched for the date, get prepared, only for it to be for naught and a lot of BS? Yeah let’s see you NOT get angry.
What limited time? He had all day to freak out. What kind of weird bizarre person would have to get psyched up for a date anyway?
Some people are just wrapped too tight for this World.
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We are only human after all.
, because I have no patience for flakes being old as I am and played too much.
