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Congratulations on going on a date! Dating is a hard thing to do.
However, I feel that you are struggling with handling the logistics. I don't see this ending well.
The ideal date would be either you going to her place and she comes to your open, you open the bottle of wine with a nice home cooked meal, and then you escalate, kiss her deeply, and then it is likely to progress to sex.
Also, as a 29 year old man, you should be more focused on women in the 18-28/29 range. If you manage to seduce one of those women, there are greater chances of some sort of longer term sustainability.
Until you learn how to handle logistics better, you shouldn't be dating. I have some empathy as managing logistics to get to the outcome that you want is a challenging thing to do, but it ultimately is the #1 determinant of your success in dating.
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OP, she enjoys your company and wants to see you sort of a something to do.
She told you it isn't a date. Believe her, and put your energies elsewhere unless you are really, really interested in her. If you just kind of feel like, yeah, I might be interested, you're wasting your time and energy.
Planning on bringing her a bottle of wine when i pick her up, invite myself in when I drop her off and try to escalate.
The classic maneuver to do this is to ask to use her bathroom. It will get you in. OP-I wouldn't recommend doing this. There are better ways than having to resort to this maneuver. OP would be wise to call this entire evening off before he is disappointed.
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I l am 29/M. I met a 45 year old woman online a couple years ago for a drink. She thought I was too young for her after our first date so there wasn’t a second date.
A couple weeks ago I hit her up to see how she was doing. We started talking and we were going to boating on a lake instead. It rained today so we decided on dinner tomorrow night instead.
She insists it’s not a date but she’s letting me pick her up etc.
Planning on bringing her a bottle of wine when i pick her up, invite myself in when I drop her off and try to escalate.
As far as a plan, that’s all I have lol. It’s worked in the past and hasn’t worked in the past.
Any other tips?
Bruh, what I bolded sounds like something a rapist would say.
The classic maneuver to do this is to ask to use her bathroom. It will get you in. OP-I wouldn't recommend doing this. There are better ways than having to resort to this maneuver. OP would be wise to call this entire evening off before he is disappointed.
No, it won't. lol. Women are wise to that one, especially women the age of his non-date. Do you really think you can lie/manipulate your way into a woman's home? You don't have much respect for women's brains, do you? Phhhht.
Bruh, what I bolded sounds like something a rapist would say.
Go, Diss! These tactics are so last century!
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These tactics are so last century!
