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I wanted to share this, which hopefully will help at least some of you. Most places all of us normally try might not work, including online dating, but have you tried gym approach? This worked so far 100% for all my girlfriends and coworkers, not to mention myself, but you need to follow some steps for it to work. To be fair, most of us have at least an average body types, and you do have to choose who you approach wisely. Which is first clue: for this to work you will need to approach the right guy yourself. How you do it is up to you, but don’t approach with question about going out first 🙂 Second, do observation for first few weeks, avoid guys that often show off in front of mirrors, or constantly work out in groups, those are the “players”. Take a note for guys who workout by themselves and act normally, those are the ones you want. You also need to approach the guy to more or less match your body type, if he is extremely fit and you know you not there it won’t work long term.
So why it’s important to be the first one to approach? I asked my male fried why he doesn’t flirt with girls at the gym, and his answer gave me the idea to use this gym approach. He explained that normal guys would never bother any girls at the gym, as they understand and want to respect women’s desire to work out without being hit on. Thus, guys like him never make first move, but they are okay if girls approach them, just don’t do it in the middle of his set. Honestly, this worked amazingly well, just think about it: those guys are not lazy, and don’t mind to break a sweat to be healthy.
I’m a guy and meeting girls at the gym is hard because everyone’s has their headphones on, so you can’t talk to them. I’ve yet to be hit on at the gym. This approach could basically work anywhere though. The randomly talking to guys is the hardest and most important part.
Those are good suggestions. Most guys will not object to a woman approaching them at the gym -- unless he is in the middle of a routine. (A neighbor tried to chat me up while I was in the middle of hanging leg raises, and she came very close to getting kicked; on purpose.)
I would challenge only one thing:
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Originally Posted by JanetJ12
You also need to approach the guy to more or less match your body type, if he is extremely fit and you know you not there it won’t work long term.
I am more fit than any women I meet so I do not expect them to match my body type or level of fitness.
Everyone seems so serious at my gym, no smiles or light hearted banter. But I work out with my brother. It's nice to have my backup when I need to kick a guy off a machine I need.
But most Women will sadly not follow this advice because it runs counter to biological female nature.
Women's brains are simply not wired to initiate or be the aggressor. They want to be "swept off their feet."
What planet are you from? Women initiate all the time. Apparently, they don't do that around you. That doesn't mean that women don't initiate.
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What planet are you from? Women initiate all the time. Apparently, they don't do that around you. That doesn't mean that women don't initiate.
