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Right, OP, is it so hard to ask her, "Are you ok? You seem down, some of the time." Depending on what she says, you could further ask, "Do you enjoy our dates? I'm not sure if you have fun when we're together". See what she says. Play it by ear.
This way, at least if you eventually do decide to break it off, and you tell her why, she shouldn't feel like it's coming from left field.
I think you should be honest. Negative people are a huge turn off. If her attitude is a reason, I'd tell her. A lot of people are unaware of how they come across to others.
I agree with the others that this is way too soon for her to be dating. Anyone who is right back out on the dating scene after ending a long-term relationship or marriage = a red flag for me.
I think you should be honest. Negative people are a huge turn off. If her attitude is a reason, I'd tell her. A lot of people are unaware of how they come across to others.
I agree with the others that this is way too soon for her to be dating. Anyone who is right back out on the dating scene after ending a long-term relationship or marriage = a red flag for me.
My reply is the same from the one in the thread about her a month ago.
You ask if it could improve over time. Well... a month has passed and it hasn't improved. These are supposed to be the greatest days in a relationship, remember??? The honeymoon phase, when you're both on your best behavior???
I would tell her that you're not feeling it and wish her the best.
I like that line. “Our personalities are not a good fit.”
I like that line too.
If she asks you to elaborate, you could say something like what you wrote in your OP, about how she was so different via texting vs. face-to-face. She needs to know how she's coming off.
My bf and I started dating when we were both going through the separation stage of our divorces, I purposefully sought out someone else who was in the same boat figuring they would be more understanding, it wasn't my smartest move and we broke up a lot over the course of the last 18+ months.
My divorce was amicable and relatively smooth but my emotions were still all over the place, I would text my bf and tell him i missed him and pined for him to be near but sometimes when he was around i would be overcome with anger or sadness, i could never seem to control when the dark cloud would emerge. With that said we have amazing chemistry so when it was good it was great and that's what helped us get through the tough stage.
If your girl is always miserable when you are around you have to ask yourself if you're ok with that kind of relationship. For us the good days outweighed the bad, so we knew this time would pass eventually.
Oh okay. That's really not very long IMO but eh. To each their own.
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