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Umm I’d try to asking her to something a bit more personal but personal trainers are paid to be very friendly. In some cases they push it a bit more for extra $$$/clients. Especially a female in that environment knows how to work the crowd to get the extra mohlah.
Go for it but keep your expectations low.
I agree. I always find people who get paid to be nice are way nicer than other people.
I have identified a sticking point in my dating life. There are women I can quickly identify that are into me and they pursue me, but for whatever reason I am less attracted to them or lose interest.
Then there are the ones I am really into and find challenging. Not only that but strongly attracted to. I feel that I should pursue those and this is an example of that.
So I've been talking to a fitness instructor at this specialty gym. I was introduced to her in Sept while doing a class there. We talked a bit and befriended one another. I got her on IG and a few days she follows me back. So every now and then we will have light banter but not so often. In person I find that we have good conversation and she is very friendly towards me. I noticed that she responds to my stories a lot which sparks conversation. She's also been borderline sexual with me, for example when talking about grappling and getting choked she said "That sounds.... kinky '. She has done something similar and creates tension.
My issue with her is that I'm not sure if she is being friendly as a professional courtesy or if she is showing me signs of interest. I recall one time she had to take a kid to the hospital for getting a concussion. She texts me later at night and apologized that our convo was interrupted and she had to go professional mode.
Tonight she saw I was leaving and thanked me for coming, hugged me, etc. She seemed to light up a bit.
I know I'm overthinking this. I will say I feel like she's inclined to get to know me more but again I'm not sure if she's just one of those fitness instructors that is just nice to be nice. She has no reason to be though :shrug:
Yes, you are. Based on your writings, you sound like an intelligent, well-written and "normal" guy. What's not to like about that?
For what it's worth, I do think she has interest in you and is expressing that interest to you in her own way. Relax and enjoy.
Yes, you are. Based on your writings, you sound like an intelligent, well-written and "normal" guy. What's not to like about that?
For what it's worth, I do think she has interest in you and is expressing that interest to you in her own way. Relax and enjoy.
Thanks! I like to think I'm normal.
Yeah regarding the whole 'paid to be nice' there's really no reason for her to just be nice to me for that lol and I've been around fitness people. It'd be just easier for her to train other women or something instead of trying to honeypot me.
Yeah regarding the whole 'paid to be nice' there's really no reason for her to just be nice to me for that lol and I've been around fitness people. It'd be just easier for her to train other women or something instead of trying to honeypot me.
There's a difference between "customer service nice" and the things she's saying to you.
Tell her, "hey I really like you. I am perceiving some mixed messages though and I need to clarify them. Would you be interested in going out on a date with me? I would like to take you out to 'X' restaurant. If we did it on 'Y' evening then we could do to the concert afterward."
From your writing style, you do seem over analytical and long winded (which can be annoying)
Keep it more light-hearted without thinking there is a reason for every XYZ...just let the dynamic between the two of you develop naturally (or not) but I think you will have the make the more obvious move in this case
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