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I do have a few friends (they're a group of 3 best friends) and two of them wound up each dating the third one's sister over a decade apart. It's funny because both of them kind of look alike and act almost exactly alike, so it's fitting that she'd go out with both of them. Though, they were also best friends for years before either of them started dating the sister of the third one. They became best friends when they were like 5 years old, then when the first one dated the sister they were late teens. And the other friend dated her when he was late 20's. She just had a brief fling with one of the friend's, but the other friend went with her for years and got serious with her and everything.
Stay away from your social circles, and stick to dating strangers?
Well if you are introduced to someone you do not know through a friend, is that person even in your social circle to begin with? Seems to me you would have know them already. If you don't then the potential repercussions will be limited because you probably will not see them very much should things not work out.
I do have a few friends (they're a group of 3 best friends) and two of them wound up each dating the third one's sister over a decade apart. It's funny because both of them kind of look alike and act almost exactly alike, so it's fitting that she'd go out with both of them. Though, they were also best friends for years before either of them started dating the sister of the third one. They became best friends when they were like 5 years old, then when the first one dated the sister they were late teens. And the other friend dated her when he was late 20's. She just had a brief fling with one of the friend's, but the other friend went with her for years and got serious with her and everything.
I have a friend who ended up marrying her sister’s husband’s brother. I think she was originally with someone else when her sister and BIL got together, but he had some issues. She and the BIL’s brother were a much better match.
Expected interaction with some of my social circle at tomorrow's Christmas get together. Pray for me.
'How's your year been?'
'Pretty ordinary, as it goes.' (Health issues, study dead ends, so on, so forth, et cetera.)
'Ohhhh... never mind. Come and meet my friend _____. I think you two would really hit it off.'
Pleasant but quite pointless chit chat follows. I'm not going to take this any further and nor is the friend whose name I've already forgotten if I ever knew it.
Two weeks later my phone rings.
Hey it's me. Did you ever call ____?'
'Was I supposed to? Who do they work for?'
'I'm trying to help you out here. You've been single too long.'
'If I'm still breathing, then no, I haven't.'
'Fine. Die alone.'
'That's the plan. Happy new year.'
It wasn't on my radar. The vast majority of folks in my social circle are married/in LTR or recently divorced. But my social circles were initially formed online and my closest friends live all over the globe. I've lived in several different places, so my social circle is not constant, and even the local people I know through my husband are married.
Online made the most sense when it came to meeting my people.
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2. Do you stay away from your social ties, and prefer dating complete strangers?
They're mostly women and mostly married or coupled up. Their social circle is much the same. At this stage in life, that's just the norm, especially where I've lived and the circles I run in.
Some people date outside and inside social circles. There are advantages and disadvantages to each. I know dating within your circle runs the risk of awkwardness when it doesn't work out. Then dating a stranger can result in disappearing acts so to speak or drama because of a new element (often times, there are romantic feelings involved in a social circle for one thing and then a stranger comes in... what could happen.
Either way is a risk and I have to do a self assessment of the type of disappointment I can handle.
When a person asks someone in the circle out it makes it uncomfortable for that person. They may never return and the asker will probably drive others away by asking them out. People socialize together to relax and have fun. They don't want to be hit on. It makes the asker look desperate and socially clueless. People have to quit being wusses and being afraid to approach a stranger.
When a person asks someone in the circle out it makes it uncomfortable for that person. They may never return and the asker will probably drive others away by asking them out. People socialize together to relax and have fun. They don't want to be hit on. It makes the asker look desperate and socially clueless. People have to quit being wusses and being afraid to approach a stranger.
Don't date friends, neighbors, or coworkers.
You mean there's NEVER a situation where you would ask someone out in your social circle? No matter how well you've gotten know them during your time with them?
When a person asks someone in the circle out it makes it uncomfortable for that person. They may never return and the asker will probably drive others away by asking them out. People socialize together to relax and have fun. They don't want to be hit on. It makes the asker look desperate and socially clueless. People have to quit being wusses and being afraid to approach a stranger.
Don't date friends, neighbors, or coworkers.
Hitting on strangers can look just as desperate
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