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he knows where you are...back off... set your own short and long term goals and work towards them
we all have moments..let it go.....
I once took a vegan to a pigroast…… on a first date.... after seeing her dry heave..and calling me an *******......im thinking this isn't going too well..
we all have judgement lapses...let it go
Lol priceless on a vegan at a pig roast. That is one date I would like to have participated in just for the entertainment value.
I'm back after a few months, I've been hanging out with this guy a few times, I like him but I also can see he treats me more like a friend. We stopped for about 2 months due to schedule conflict, he flew out of country for a month, when he's back, it's holidays season.
I asked him out before Christmas but he was visiting family so he declined, however, he said we should try the week after. I didn't hear from him after that so I decided to drop him another text last Friday, asking if we could meet on the weekend, again, he said the time was not good, suggested to try again the week later and that we should discuss in a few days. Obviously, he didn't reach out at all the entire week after that.
Now come my naive and stupid part, I should have got the hint and dropped but I didn't, I held onto the fact he suggested to try another time and convinced myself he must have been super busy. Anyhow, yesterday I texted him for the 3rd time asking if he had time on sunday, he left me on read, no response whatsoever.
I don't know how I should feel right now, I'm part angry at myself for not having self esteem and keep reaching out despite all the signs I sensed. Part of me can't understand why he couldn't just decline the first time I asked, why did he have to keep suggesting another date and lead me on like that.
I'm both angry and disappointed at myself, I like him a lot and I don't know how to get over this
Time will get you past it. It's all you can do. Leave him be and heal.
I'm back after a few months, I've been hanging out with this guy a few times, I like him but I also can see he treats me more like a friend. We stopped for about 2 months due to schedule conflict, he flew out of country for a month, when he's back, it's holidays season.
I asked him out before Christmas but he was visiting family so he declined, however, he said we should try the week after. I didn't hear from him after that so I decided to drop him another text last Friday, asking if we could meet on the weekend, again, he said the time was not good, suggested to try again the week later and that we should discuss in a few days. Obviously, he didn't reach out at all the entire week after that.
Now come my naive and stupid part, I should have got the hint and dropped but I didn't, I held onto the fact he suggested to try another time and convinced myself he must have been super busy. Anyhow, yesterday I texted him for the 3rd time asking if he had time on sunday, he left me on read, no response whatsoever.
I don't know how I should feel right now, I'm part angry at myself for not having self esteem and keep reaching out despite all the signs I sensed. Part of me can't understand why he couldn't just decline the first time I asked, why did he have to keep suggesting another date and lead me on like that.
I'm both angry and disappointed at myself, I like him a lot and I don't know how to get over this
Don't feel disappointed. Take back control starting now. What done is done. And that only shows you have a lot of gut to pursue what you like. Don't be embarrassed about that. Right now, that you got the hint, and see how is treating you, you can take back your power. You can choose to stop contacting him. Delete him from your contacts. And if he contact you, decide what to do about it. You can either choose to go silent, or delay communication. If he does reach out to you again, you should confront him about his behavior, saying you don't appreciate how he is acting, and that he should be more forward with you.
Don't feel disappointed. Take back control starting now. What done is done. And that only shows you have a lot of gut to pursue what you like. Don't be embarrassed about that. Right now, that you got the hint, and see how is treating you, you can take back your power. You can choose to stop contacting him. Delete him from your contacts. And if he contact you, decide what to do about it. You can either choose to go silent, or delay communication. If he does reach out to you again, you should confront him about his behavior, saying you don't appreciate how he is acting, and that he should be more forward with you.
I deleted his number right after posting here, I was determined to think he had never appear in my life and move on but a few days ago he texted me back (finally), same old busy reason and again "maybe we can do it next week". I don't understand what he thinks/ wants, I still have feelings for him so I couldn't bring myself to confront, I can only do that once I'm ready to cut off with that person.
However, I'm proud of myself too, I replied nonchalantly, I didn't care and read into every single word he said anymore.
I'm both angry and disappointed at myself, I like him a lot and I don't know how to get over this
Of course you are welcome to your own feelings, but I don't think you deserve those emotions. You didn't do anything wrong - he's just not interested. Time to move on.
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