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Just my observation which is of course influenced by a small sample group comprising of mostly friends....
Men: Rate with a range of 1 through 10.
Women: Rate with a "nah", "ok", "HOT"
My feelings is that women rely more on intuition to decide who they find attractive while men are more along the lines of abstract. I also noticed men don't seem to have a consensus who is a so called "10" and who is not.... While women will discuss among themselves and kinda sway each other's views on who is considered "HOT" and a "nah".
What's that mean?
One guy says to another that he lost her to?...You can have her 'cause you'll settle for a 7 and I insist on an 8?
wait a minute, this rating thing I thought 1 was the best, you know we're #1 and all that. My friend keeps trying to set me up with his GF's friend who is a "10" and I'm like, uh... thanks, but no thanks
I don't see the problem with it, nor do I see it creating emotional distance.
Yeh.. I never understood why people see it as being emotional distant or objectifying. Some people don't think in terms of thumbs up, or down.... they weigh/think in grays that requires a bit of granularity...
Even a thumbs up or down is the same... just simply a scale of 2 values
It seems like most of the men who do are either players or wannabe players.
Why would you want to create so much emotional distance if you're trying to connect?
Because they are not trying to connect, they are trying to score.
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Because they are not trying to connect, they are trying to score.
IN the dating scene... before you even talk.... it is natural to rate/score superficially. It is all you know about the person is what you observe from afar. Both men and women do this..... its just men do so more on a scale rather than thumbs up nor down (at least to my observation)
I think it is pretty fair to rate someone as average and still give them a chance to get to know them... nothing wrong with that.
IN the dating scene... before you even talk.... it is natural to rate/score superficially. It is all you know about the person is what you observe from afar. Both men and women do this..... its just men do so more on a scale rather than thumbs up nor down (at least to my observation)
I think it is pretty fair to rate someone as average and still give them a chance to get to know them... nothing wrong with that.
After you connect, that's a different story.
I think there is a difference between determining if you are attracted to someone and assigning a numerical value.
One is looking to yourself (attraction) and the other is judging another (rating them).
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Rating scales are used to standardize almost everything. From Gymnastics to diving to Bond risk/yield spreads. It's a way for to take something subjective (like how we feel) and assign a measurement or metric to it.
Doctors ask you on a scale from 1-10 how much pain are you in. The rating scale is no different and it's not specific to the male gender..
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