He asked me on a fourth date... now he seems to be blowing me off (partner, romantic)

[LLCNYC]

Originally Posted by Chrissi3445

The last time we were just playing around in his car

Another nail in the coffin.

He's pushing 40 and still doing that? And he wanted to get a hotel last time???

[Chrissi3445]

Well for the car it was my suggestion as it would be to kiss but not in public. Yes he suggested hotel on the second date.

Anyway I will tell him I ain't up for booty calls, only for proper dating.

[RbccL]

Hotel is such a red flag though...what was the reasoning behind that suggestion?

[Chrissi3445]

The reason was that he wanted to kiss and hug me all night long. He said he felt like that.

My main concern is that whilst already planned to meet Saturday and he agreed he suddenly pulled the horny card Friday eve.

I damn don't understand the reason behind this and the cancellation in the morning over his son hitting his head, despite he agreed to see.me Saturday

I understand that things do happen...but this seemed a bit farfetched.

[RbccL]

I’d invite the guy over, or go to his place ...like, after drinks or a walk or outdoor concert. The hotel bit just yells “danger roommate involved” to me. Don’t tell him you have chores or hit your head either, just meet at least once when he suggests and after that if he cancels tell him to forget it.

Sometimes there’s a series of unfortunate events. I’m not desperate either, but if I find genuine chemistry I’ll put up with a delay or two max, you know what I mean?

[Chrissi3445]

Sure. But in this case we already had planned Saturday.

Friday he contacts last min to say he is horny when I was still on the road and agrees to meet Saturday at the end.

Then he says in the morning his son hit his head and he was in the hospital all night because his mum is out.

Anyway from the photos he posted on WhatsApp today no bandages or cuts etc on the boy.

So ...I dunno

[old_cold]

Originally Posted by Chrissi3445

Sure. But in this case we already had planned Saturday.

Friday he contacts last min to say he is horny when I was still on the road and agrees to meet Saturday at the end.

Then he says in the morning his son hit his head and he was in the hospital all night because his mum is out.

Anyway from the photos he posted on WhatsApp today no bandages or cuts etc on the boy.

So ...I dunno

Just maybe he knows that a womans period isn't a one day thing so figures you aren't worth seeing Saturday, either

[Chrissi3445]

But I brought it up and asked specifically if he wants to see me on my period and he says it's not only about the sex with us.

I'm a bit confused from all this

[redplum33]

Housework shouldn't be neglected.

[james112]

Originally Posted by Chrissi3445

I mean the original arrangement was for Saturday is just that he said he was very horny. I mean ok we had something arranged already I'm not exactly a bootycall either I have had things to do as well

You accept this kind of talk? He sees you as a mistress, not a romantic partner for a meaningful relationship.


Bty, what would a beautiful romantic meaningful relationship look like? Think about that.