What do you think of women that want men to "save them?"

[Masamune]

Originally Posted by cBach

Some women are good at faking some of the characteristics to "get me" and then the truth comes out.

Can't imagine.

I'm glad to hear that you decided against saving her. Nothing about it sounded like a healthy step forward for you.

[rya96797]

Originally Posted by cBach

Some women are good at faking some of the characteristics to "get me" and then the truth comes out.

A lot are very good at it actually. It's why some are described as catty or 2 faced, because they're good at fake being nice or complimenting to someone's face, then a few seconds later being super mean and talking crap behind their back. in relationships, i've known some to keep up the act for years with the guy, until she gets her hooks in via marriage and/or kids.

[retro_80s]

I know somebody like this. Wants a guy to take care of her while she pursues useless degrees, part-time dead-end jobs, and similar stuff. She is very good at making you feel good about yourself and charges for that a hefty price. the worst part is she will probably find some fool ready to do it.

Walk away. these types will drop you like a hot potato as soon as the richer guy shows up.

[Electrician4you]

Originally Posted by cBach

I don't want to get into too many specifics but I recently broke up and an ex from 20+ years ago resurfaced and she's going through a difficult time and has told me that she needs me to "save her". Is this healthy or not so healthy? She is appealing to a core aspect of my masculinity as I think every guy wants to be the hero, but my feelings are ambivalent at this point. I think my line of thought right now is that this kind of sets me up for failure, because if I can't "save her" then it will be my fault.

Needy and parasitical.