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I never understood serial dating when the person doesn't want a relationship. What's the point? Same thing with head games; I'm not talking about little misunderstandings, which I don't consider to be game-playing; I'm talking about people who deliberately play games, psychological warfare. I did not feel safe around a lot of people I dated, I'm talking about emotionally safe. Sometimes from date number one.
Some people ( me for instance ) aren’t “looking” for a relationship, but sometimes they just happen. Just because I wasn’t looking for Mr Right should I have just become a hermit and kept to myself? I always made it clear that I wasn’t looking for a b/f or a husband up front and they could have the option of asking me out.... or not.
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I am sick of “modern” dating and have been for a decade.
Modern dating to me is an annoying game where you meet someone, you go on a first meet of drinks or coffee, you go on a second meet that may be something that is an actual outing. During the second outing, your “date” is trying to figure out how soon they can secure sex. They will try during your first proper outing. And if it isn’t on the first outing, the third “date” is some variation of Netflix and Chill. Rinse and repeat.
Or in modern dating, you may not even get to the outing before you get a d*ck pic or a solicitation for sex.
Actual dating where you meet, you get to know each other over a few outings, you figure out you are compatible, and you form a relationship based on your goals - that’s pretty fun.
I lost interest in dating at the age of about 42, 43.
And then I met my husband. lol
At age 32, after a year and a half when I had two relationships with devastating breakups, I told myself I needed to just accept I was going to be single.
I am sick of “modern” dating and have been for a decade.
Modern dating to me is an annoying game where you meet someone, you go on a first meet of drinks or coffee, you go on a second meet that may be something that is an actual outing. During the second outing, your “date” is trying to figure out how soon they can secure sex. They will try during your first proper outing. And if it isn’t on the first outing, the third “date” is some variation of Netflix and Chill. Rinse and repeat.
Or in modern dating, you may not even get to the outing before you get a d*ck pic or a solicitation for sex.
Actual dating where you meet, you get to know each other over a few outings, you figure out you are compatible, and you form a relationship based on your goals - that’s pretty fun.
I’ve not resorted to OLD ( not that there’s anything wrong with that.... just not my thing.) I figured out where the guys hang out and started frequenting those places and taking up hobbies that appeal to men. Surfing, flying airplanes, kick boxing, riding motorcycles, going to car shows and the like.
Dik pics! What is that? Looks like a penis....only a lot smaller. ( usually cures them of sending more.. or even contacting you again.) Lmao!
I am sick of “modern” dating and have been for a decade.
Modern dating to me is an annoying game where you meet someone, you go on a first meet of drinks or coffee, you go on a second meet that may be something that is an actual outing. During the second outing, your “date” is trying to figure out how soon they can secure sex.
Either they are trying to figure out how soon they can secure sex, or they try to come up with reasons why a relationship won't work and start giving those reasons. That's the point where it's wise to get up and walk away. I always would bring cab money with me on a date, too, so if I wound up with a rude date I could get home on my own.
I also got tired of hearing the same (usually) lies from men of "I've had a vasectomy" or "I'm sterile". Seriously, there couldn't possibly be that many men under 40 who are sterile. These were usually just excuses for them to not have to wear a condom.
I got sick of those lies, along with the men who would knock off years or even decades from their real age.
Modern dating to me is an annoying game where you meet someone, you go on a first meet of drinks or coffee, you go on a second meet that may be something that is an actual outing. During the second outing, your “date” is trying to figure out how soon they can secure sex. They will try during your first proper outing. And if it isn’t on the first outing, the third “date” is some variation of Netflix and Chill. Rinse and repeat.
In a nutshell, here's what changed. Let's take the baseball metaphor, and run with it.
In the past, men and women were like the pitcher and the catcher in baseball. In other words, they're different, and one player may have no clue how the other player plays their position. But the positions are complementary to each other, and both players are working together to ensure a mutual win for Team Us.
Today, men and women are like the pitcher and the batter in baseball. In other words, working hard to screw over the other team and ensure one's own win. The woman works hard to ensure the man "strikes out" unless he's a 20%-er, and the man fights to get to at least first base, rather than strike out entirely.
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I also got tired of hearing the same (usually) lies from men of "I've had a vasectomy" or "I'm sterile". Seriously, there couldn't possibly be that many men under 40 who are sterile. These were usually just excuses for them to not have to wear a condom.
That's easy to fend off. Just tell the man "you're getting old and you really want to have a baby". I assure you, most men who lied about the vasectomy will run away faster than a cheetah. Unless, of course, the vasectomy story is true. Then I'm afraid you're SOL.
In a nutshell, here's what changed. Let's take the baseball metaphor, and run with it.
In the past, men and women were like the pitcher and the catcher in baseball. In other words, they're different, and one player may have no clue how the other player plays their position. But the positions are complementary to each other, and both players are working together to ensure a mutual win for Team Us.
Today, men and women are like the pitcher and the batter in baseball. In other words, working hard to screw over the other team and ensure one's own win. The woman works hard to ensure the man "strikes out" unless he's a 20%-er, and the man fights to get to at least first base, rather than strike out entirely.
That's easy to fend off. Just tell the man "you're getting old and you really want to have a baby". I assure you, most men who lied about the vasectomy will run away faster than a cheetah. Unless, of course, the vasectomy story is true. Then I'm afraid you're SOL.
The old 80% of women only go after the top 20% of men nonsense. Lol
The good news being that since that aren’t enough 20%er’s to go around, a bunch of those women are going to have to settle for guys.... like you.
I’ve not resorted to OLD ( not that there’s anything wrong with that.... just not my thing.) I figured out where the guys hang out and started frequenting those places and taking up hobbies that appeal to men. Surfing, flying airplanes, kick boxing, riding motorcycles, going to car shows and the like.
Dik pics! What is that? Looks like a penis....only a lot smaller. ( usually cures them of sending more.. or even contacting you again.) Lmao!
Or tell them this time you'll let it pass, next time they’ll get reported for the kiddie porn. Got that tip from one of my CD-R pals.
Dating, I’ll never lose interest. Unless I meet someone totally compatible with amazing chemistry. It’s fun, it’s educational, it gets me out of my isolating work-from-home job that I really wanted.
If this isn’t the guy (next episode Wednesday) I can see being in my 80s and still thinking it’s an adventure.
Me either. I like dating and meeting new people. I think it’s easier when there are no expectations that he or I am “the one”. No pressure. I just figure that if it happens...it happens. The last time I went all in... I got burned, but it didn’t sour me on dating or men.. just that one man. Lol
If you have quit looking for your special someone/soulmate, how old were you?
What are the reasons you quit?
Are you a loner by nature or have a large social circle?
I use to work with a lady in her 50’s who use to tell me I would quit looking for a husband one day. We both had a similar taste in men and were attracted to the bad boys, which we all know do not bring happily ever after. I will be 41 soon and I think I finally understand what she means. If my current relationship ends, I am done. I don’t know what I would do for socializing or if I would just become more married to work I go places alone a lot now. Or just with my dog.
I never "lost interest" in dating because I never invested.
Ba-dum-teee!!!
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( usually cures them of sending more.. or even contacting you again.) Lmao!
Got that tip from one of my CD-R pals. 
