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HOLY COW! That's a lot of divorces in your family. My parents are still married. My husband's parents are still married. My Grandparents are still married. His Grandfather is widowed and remarried 9 years now. I have one aunt that divorced (never remarried) and my husband has one uncle that divorced and remarried something like 20 years now. Everyone else is still married or there's my aunt who is a widow.
There isn't any strict feeling that you MUST NOT get divorced in my own family. My husband's family are all Christians and seem to think divorce is heresy. I just never worried about it with my parents. I mean, my parents argue, but they always seem so together. We've got enough other issues to deal with as it is.
That's good for your family, however these days if a woman feels the slightest discontentment she can get divorced and the courts will give her everything PLUS (unless she is absolutely hideous) she will be able to find a new man fairly quickly if she wants too because the dating field is strongly in the womans favor.
True enough. Every time I see that stat, I chuckle. My mom's on her fourth marriage. My stepdad, brother-in-law and sister on their second. Grandma on her third, a grandfather on his third or fourth. Liz Taylor had seven or eight marriages. They aren't that unusual.
Those kinds of numbers over and over drag the phony stat getting around down in a big way. A lot of marriages have to work to bring that alleged 50% number up, too.
Pretty much. I was looking at a recent post by a FB acquaintance. Her post was this:
"Men are absolutely impossible. Hence why I gave up on them a long time ago."
with a reply to another guy of:
"The woman will always want to do things get (her?) way and if you want to be with her you just need to deal with it"
Riiiight. A red-blooded masculine male with his gonads in place is just going to get run over by a woman? Nope. Women who believe men are impossible to deal with, you know, because keeping a guy fed after a long day at work and procreating with him once in a while are hard concepts to understand...are flat out impossible and deserve to fail at life.
Don't overthink this, ladies.
Very true. Men whose lives don't revolve around getting laid and having arm candy every night aren't that desperate.
1. What's your point? Why would you want anything to do with losers like that and why does it worry you that those couples are together?
2. It stinks, but let's be honest here. Guys have hobbies and a womans number one hobby is usually having a guy in their lives. It is a cruel curse of nature. Unfortunately, with how the family courts do in most guys (I've seen it up close with how my parents divorced...mom remarried 2x more and she was very insecure while single, dad never bothered and he's lived just fine), you'll have to get used to it.
You are right, though. A guy with his head on straight ain't going to make news and probably won't feel the biological clock ticking like a woman in a similar situation does. Sorry. Don't know what to do about that. I have no rush to get hitched at 33 and for some reason my mom and grandmother seem to think I need to feel reassured that this is okay. Women. They won't get it.
My number one hobby isn't having a man. If it was, I'd be screwed.
It just annoys me that I've been taught all my life either directly or indirectly about "good girls" and how they are happy and whatnot, and then I grew up and I saw slutty girls, rude girls, and screwed up girls get guy after guy, or even one good guy while only one guy, one, has ever been interested in getting to know me and he was a verbally abusive felon.
That's good for your family, however these days if a woman feels the slightest discontentment she can get divorced and the courts will give her everything PLUS (unless she is absolutely hideous) she will be able to find a new man fairly quickly if she wants too because the dating field is strongly in the womans favor.
Women aren't that bad. No one expects to be happy at all times during a marriage. There has to be significant problems before someone reaches the point that they want a divorce.
Can someone please describe what a good man is? Plenty of women and even men have a perception of what a good man supposed to be.
Well, it's really subjective--everyone will have an different answer. But for me a good man is kind, he's a gentleman, patient and caring, but still sure of himself and masculine. He takes care of himself but isn't obsessed with looks, style, and other vapid things. He is polite, but still speaks him mind. He is forgiving and accepts forgiveness but is stern in his beliefs. He would trust his love and protect it... and would be well worthy of admiration and respect.
Honestly, I think most men fit this description. Maybe some are stronger in one category than another, but for the most part, most men are "good men" in my opinion. I think the problem for women (including myself) is finding these men because the louder, maybe "not good" men stand out more. Like a mosquito buzzing around and annoying you so much you fail to notice the wonderful butterfly gently floating around.
That's good for your family, however these days if a woman feels the slightest discontentment she can get divorced and the courts will give her everything PLUS (unless she is absolutely hideous) she will be able to find a new man fairly quickly if she wants too because the dating field is strongly in the womans favor.
I believe that's a myth. Male income tends to rise after divorce while women, in general, tend to struggle. See link below. Further, men remarry at greater rates.
""The general belief that men get fleeced by their divorces while women get richer and live off the proceeds has long been due for exposure as a pernicious myth," said Ruth Smallacombe, a family consultant at Flip. "In reality, women often suffer economic hardship when they divorce. In addition, the resentment caused by unfair financial settlements has many knock-on effects, damaging ongoing relationships with former spouses and a woman's ability to move on with her life."
Well, it's really subjective--everyone will have an different answer. But for me a good man is kind, he's a gentleman, patient and caring, but still sure of himself and masculine. He takes care of himself but isn't obsessed with looks, style, and other vapid things. He is polite, but still speaks him mind. He is forgiving and accepts forgiveness but is stern in his beliefs. He would trust his love and protect it... and would be well worthy of admiration and respect.
Honestly, I think most men fit this description. Maybe some are stronger in one category than another, but for the most part, most men are "good men" in my opinion. I think the problem for women (including myself) is finding these men because the louder, maybe "not good" men stand out more. Like a mosquito buzzing around and annoying you so much you fail to notice the wonderful butterfly gently floating around.
I think you have a very good point, most men are generally good men..Most of the time if a female could get dates but always say "can't find good men" it's either because she really really picky or her man radar is off and always finds the rotten apples (that's a whole nother topic too lol)..
At that age the hormone overload is even worse. You would have sex with a donkey if it put out. Plus who wouldn't have sex with their teacher? Boff a librarian? Even just a substitute. Those are serious teenage fantasies, and marriage is just an excuse to nail their teacher. Not every older woman is a teacher, hence the fantasy is lost. If there was an older female neighbor while you were a young teen mowing the lawn, and you saw her changing in her bedroom, you would have to stop and rub one out right there on the lawn~! I'm talking about men who are over the age of 18, preferably with something going for them. These are the candidates I speak of who would more than likely marry a younger woman over an older one.
VERY TRUE...I still think about some of my old teachers from middle school and high school, WISHING I could got home with them for a tutor or something. Its a big reason why the MILF porn catagory is growning faster than the Teen catagory, I never liked the young girl porn stuff at all and never understood dudes who did, but been a Milf\Mature fan since 1997.
The Article was interesting, but nothing new. Two women who had babies through AI without fathers, watching married men and women playing in the park with their children. I wonder if their chances of finding a man are reduced because they decided to go it alone with AI with no Father for the child?
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