Is it reasonable to break up over money issues? (loving, young, child)
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I don't think it is unreasonable expectation if she is doing nothing else to be able to find time to make one phone call or two. Especially if it is going to save a grand a year.
I am not sure this is a reason to break up but it does show irresponsibility.
I don't think it is unreasonable expectation if she is doing nothing else to be able to find time to make one phone call or two. Especially if it is going to save a grand a year.
I am not sure this is a reason to break up but it does show irresponsibility.
That's it.
It's more her attitude towards work znd finances that would make her completely incompatible to me.
She sounds flakey. I don't do flakey.
I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 years. I truly want to be with her but I'm having a difficult time with that because of money issues.
This is one of the examples of many: She is a seasonal worker and collects unemployment during the off season. I'm totally okay with that and can handle the overhead of the home. With that being said I think its reasonable for me to expect her to save and spend the money she does get wisely. For the past 6 months I've told her that she should call her health insurance company to see if they would cover a doctor's visit she has ever month or help in finding a new doctor that they do cover.
That's $125 that can used for something else if we don't have to pay that. All it takes is a phone call to her insurance company and she can't even do that.
I tried to explain this to her and she gets defensive despite telling me to communicate when something is bothering me.
That's over $1,200 a year that is spent that she's could be saving or using for something else.
She said that she needs me to remind her. I told her that her reminder is every month she has to pay that bill. I told her that she doesn't have to remind me to go to work or pay the monthly bills to keep a roof over her head. I do that for us. She doesn't seem to understand where I'm coming from.
I can't see myself with a person who views money issues on a total different opposite end.
At this point I'm just ready to end it. Is that wrong or unreasonable to do that? Am I explaining it wrong?
You're right to feel the way that you do and to end it because you're NOT her parent.You will get resentful of having to constantly feel like you're her parent and not her love interest.It's time to end it because there is nothing you can do.She is an adult and wants to do things financially her way and not your way.
I've been with my girlfriend for about 6 years. I truly want to be with her but I'm having a difficult time with that because of money issues.
This is one of the examples of many: She is a seasonal worker and collects unemployment during the off season. I'm totally okay with that and can handle the overhead of the home. With that being said I think its reasonable for me to expect her to save and spend the money she does get wisely. For the past 6 months I've told her that she should call her health insurance company to see if they would cover a doctor's visit she has ever month or help in finding a new doctor that they do cover.
That's $125 that can used for something else if we don't have to pay that. All it takes is a phone call to her insurance company and she can't even do that.
I tried to explain this to her and she gets defensive despite telling me to communicate when something is bothering me.
That's over $1,200 a year that is spent that she's could be saving or using for something else.
She said that she needs me to remind her. I told her that her reminder is every month she has to pay that bill. I told her that she doesn't have to remind me to go to work or pay the monthly bills to keep a roof over her head. I do that for us. She doesn't seem to understand where I'm coming from.
I can't see myself with a person who views money issues on a total different opposite end.
At this point I'm just ready to end it. Is that wrong or unreasonable to do that? Am I explaining it wrong?
If you're ready to end it, you should end it. It doesn't need explaining if it's how you feel.
I think not being on the same page about finances is a deal breaker.
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