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Regarding women: You often see women with uggos. Why is that? Clearly it's because they don't care about men's looks so much and women have the ability to do that more (men less so), but to assume that ALL women are like this and don't care about looks is a huge mistake. Yes, some women do care about looks. It's also false to say what your friend said that all women are superficial and care about men's looks. All you have to do is look at the many women who are with men who look like a baboons azz and you'll get your answer there. Clearly the woman can overlook that because of other traits she enjoys about him taking center stage. It is part of the privilege of being in the female gender that allows women to "diversify" like that.
Well, perhaps...I think that comes with age. I think this could be said for a younger generation of women (or men) that tend to aim mostly at looks, but as they age, say..mid 40s...they start to care less about looks and more about personality and character.
Although, there's a caveat to THAT caveat, lol...I know fit , older people are kind of stymied as to finding someone 55+ that is as fit as they are...so they kind of settle with the dad bod guy.
I got a male friend, he's pushing 60, but is a plant-based, athletic guy. Very lean, head shaven. He said he hasn't found many attractive women at the Meetup groups he goes to...that are around his age. And women over 55 that keep trim tend to settle on guys with dad bods, I guess...because it's kind of a given that men aren't on top of their health once they get past a certain age.
When I say "Dad bods", not necessarily men with guts, but just out of shape men that aren't overweight.
For me she has to be reasonably good looking, dress size 12 or less, be friendly/bright, premenopausal, and taking no mind altering prescription drugs.
Before I was married, Looks were the most important thing I looked for. A woman can have the best personality in the world but if I am not attracted to her then the relationship will never work out.
Looks are always part of anyone’s assessment. I wouldn’t say it’s the “only” consideration given by anyone unless the “look” is so disagreeable to someones sensibilities that no words are needed.
Men do you judge women on looks with first meetings?
Yes.
I have found that whenever I see a lady with blackened teeth, I am repulsed by the sight. I have a difficult time forcing myself to be friendly and open to these ladies.
No, whats the point? I usually know what they look like before meeting, the meeting is about chemistry. If its not there, we move on.
I’m not a guy but I have to agree with this, I think it’s all about chemistry. I’ve met up with good looking guys but knew there’d be no second date because there was zero chemistry. Pretty sure if there’s a second date the first date had to have some sort of chemistry.
Like if you met someone from Match.com for coffee and decided you didn’t want to meet her again is it solely based on her appearance in person or could you find them physically attractive but just didn’t feel a connection?
I'll admit, I will notice a person's looks, but that is not going to be the deciding factor. Whether I want to meet her again or not is not going to be based on her looks. It would be more of her overall character and how we go together. The energy I get from her and our interaction is going to be a larger factor. And for me, attraction is more of a feeling than anything else. She could look like Beyonce, and I could still not feel attracted to her. At the same time, she could look in ways that people would consider "unattractive" and I could feel infatuated with her. I've fallen for all types of looks.
I’m not a guy but I have to agree with this, I think it’s all about chemistry. I’ve met up with good looking guys but knew there’d be no second date because there was zero chemistry. Pretty sure if there’s a second date the first date had to have some sort of chemistry.
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Well this happen to me a few times when I was younger and people always said “you’re so pretty why don’t you have a boyfriend”. I’m referring to my co worker mostly who is pretty, nice body as well and good personality and she met a guy for coffee and he bailed after a half hour. When she texted him once just say she had a nice time, he said “I don’t think it’s going to work out”. Another guy made an excuse to leave as soon as he met her. It doesn’t make sense. I have 2 friends who are not attractive, overweight, one has bad teeth, and they always find men. Especially men who want to get physical with them. My pretty coworker can’t even find a man interested for casual relationships either. I had the same problem until I was married. And I knew my husband as friends. We didn’t meet online.
Why doesn't it make sense tho? You weren't on the date.... Most men want chemistry ofc...........but it's silly & immature IMO to assume it's the *only* thing men want.............
A N D we make up the other half of a relationship........so what we want is important too......
There was a time when I would have held on longer than I should have because she was hot. I wouldn't do that anymore. That's not to say that looks no longer matter, but that I won't allow myself to be railroaded by them. In fact, I'm aware of the potential for her to be corrupted by all of the priority treatment she has gotten because of her looks, as well as my potential to fall into that same hormonal trap. So my reaction would be, "Wow, she's hot. Hold up, be careful now!"
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Most men want chemistry ofc...........but it's silly & immature IMO to assume it's the *only* thing men want.............
