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Let's say she has a high responsibility and time-consuming job.
I am asking this because I am currently dating a guy who seems really nice But he's really fit and he made it clear that he was interested in a girl at least as active as he is.
I work up to 60 (sometimes 70) hours a week.
I am much more educated than he is (not to sound pretentious !!). I love my job (I work in the medical field) but it's really demanding so I only work out during the week-ends.
He, on the other hand, has plenty of free time, and works out a lot ++++
However, I eat healthy (no processed food), am a vegetarian, non smoker and I am thin (BMI 18.5). I have a high metabolism so I don't gain weigh
But I just wonder if this would be a deal-breaker for you ? That's silly, but I am kind of worried
Are you worried about this because you think he's going to drop you? Has he told you he expects you to work out more? If it was a dealbreaker, would he have gotten involved with you in the first place?
A better person to ask this question than a bunch of strangers on the internet who will hold a myriad of opinions... is the one person whose opinion you actually care about. None of us know him and could only guess.
I think you two aren't an ideal match. You work 70hrs/ week - he has plenty free time. He will get bored really fast, waiting for you to have spare time for him.
He probably wants a GF who would go with him to gym and participate in outdoor activities.
Or - being "much more educated than him" you will get bored with him, soon.
Find someone who better matches your lifestyle and interests.
Are you worried about this because you think he's going to drop you? Has he told you he expects you to work out more? If it was a dealbreaker, would he have gotten involved with you in the first place?
A better person to ask this question than a bunch of strangers on the internet who will hold a myriad of opinions... is the one person whose opinion you actually care about. None of us know him and could only guess.
Yes, you're right.
I am just asking because I never dated someone who exercised that much before and I just wanted to know if other people shared the same lifestyle as he does, and could help me understand his expectations
Well, I don't know. He said he understood that I was invested in work but he mentioned he would like me to work out more...
We've been together for less than a month, so it's still early to know if it's a deal-breaker for now
I think you two aren't an ideal match. You work 70hrs/ week - he has plenty free time. He will get bored waiting for your spare time, soon. He probably wants a GF who would go with him to gym and participate in outdoor activities.
Or being "much more educated than him" you will get bored with him, soon.
Find someone who better matches your lifestyle and interests.
Let's say she has a high responsibility and time-consuming job.
I am asking this because I am currently dating a guy who seems really nice But he's really fit and he made it clear that he was interested in a girl at least as active as he is.
I work up to 60 (sometimes 70) hours a week.
I am much more educated than he is (not to sound pretentious !!). I love my job (I work in the medical field) but it's really demanding so I only work out during the week-ends.
He, on the other hand, has plenty of free time, and works out a lot ++++
However, I eat healthy (no processed food), am a vegetarian, non smoker and I am thin (BMI 18.5). I have a high metabolism so I don't gain weigh
But I just wonder if this would be a deal-breaker for you ? That's silly, but I am kind of worried
Thank you very much for your replies
He's honestly told you what he wants. Unless he included things like being thin, BMI, diet, in his list, those are not what he means. Its about fitness/activity and how much time and effort is devoted to it.
He could be one of the narcissistic types who adores only himself. Would you want to put up with that?
He wants you to work out more? Does he even understand what are you doing for living? I doubt...
He's honestly told you what he wants. Unless he included things like being thin, BMI, diet, in his list, those are not what he means. Its about fitness/activity and how much time and effort is devoted to it.
Actually, he did. I just didn't mention it
He said he was attracted to me because I am slender and that he appreciates that I eat healthily
If he is only focused on physique, honestly you sound better than most. Very few people are thin or work out so if you are either, already you are ahead of the game
The number of fit guys out there outnumber fit women. Just more guys are into fitness, are athletic types. And not all require their partners to be athletic types.
I am a woman and for about a year I got really into fitness. I was restricting diet, working out. My body changed very fast. I was very slim and muscular. To be honest, I did not feel sexy this way. I didnt have soft womanly curves. My confidence in attracting men was lagging!
There were a few men in my life at that time and honestly, they liked me better a bit fatter, less muscular. They complained as I got leaner and put on muscle. They were attracted to women after all. Amd I found I felt less sexy too.
I am rambling on so much but my point is, find the body type you feel sexy with. Some men like the hard toned body type. Others like soft feminine curves. What makes you feel good?
If he is randomly shaming you on your body while you are healthy, sounds rude. Unless you find motivation in it to get in better shape. Its up to you what you find acceptable behavior in your partner.
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But he's really fit and he made it clear that he was interested in a girl at least as active as he is. 
