Unexpected tattoo (girlfriend, woman, love, American)

[MvPericles]

Hey all, I am really confused and I don't know if I am overreacting or not.
Last week I had a meeting with my girlfriend and I noticed a tattoo on her right arm and I was like.. What?
First of all I have to admit that I dislike tattoos and I am not into them, I had made it clear with her before many months and I thought that everything is okay.
Most of you will say that is her body and she can do whatever she want.. And who am I to control her?
From the other hand she acted without even discussed it with me and she told me also that she was hiding it during the last month. I feel that she didn't respect my opinion and our relationship(4 years) and I feel like she made a choice between me and a tattoo and she choosed the tattoo...also I felt so uncomfortable when I realized that it will be permanent. I feel really strange...
I focus more on the act which did be her on.. And then about the ink...

Any opinions? Any advices? We had a fight about it...
Thanks in advance!

[Formerly Known As Twenty]

How she chooses to decorate her body is none of your concern unless she expects you to get a matching tattoo. ;-)

[K12144]

Originally Posted by MvPericles

Most of you will say that is her body and she can do whatever she want.. And who am I to control her?

So if you already realize this... what's the deal?

Why should she have discussed it with you?

And she probably hid it because she knew what your reaction would be.

I guess it's time for you to either get over it, or end the relationship.

[Bob-Man]

It’s your right to not like them, so you should have someone who has no tattoos. There’s simply no benefit to having one anyway.

[NC~Mom]

You're still in complete control....of your own life.
If you can't handle a woman that makes her own decisions, move along.

[Marianna-Lou]

Is the tattoo distateful or shocking in any way?
And even then, I don't understand at all where the problem is.
Your girlfriend didn't tell you earlier because she knew how cranky you would get, simple!
Time to understand a girl's body is her own and she can do whatever she wants with it. Like it or leave it. If you don't understand this, it's sad.

[fleetiebelle]

Originally Posted by MvPericles

Hey all, I am really confused and I don't know if I am overreacting or not.
Last week I had a meeting with my girlfriend and I noticed a tattoo on her right arm and I was like.. What?
First of all I have to admit that I dislike tattoos and I am not into them, I had made it clear with her before many months and I thought that everything is okay.

How long have you been with your girlfriend, and when did you notice? If she'd *just* gotten a tattoo, you'd have noticed a bandage before anything else.

[tamajane]

She did make a choice. She was willing to risk losing you over getting some ink.

[zentropa]

Is this a cultural thing? I sense you are not American. Is she?

[ZQY]

Seems like you two are not meant for each other... Clearly she either loves you dearly and blindly or she just doesn't care how her love life pans out. Deep down you still have this perfect image of a girlfriend and she doesn't fit into that image. That's a guy's problem. It's been 4 years so I'd hope you think it through before wasting you two a few more years before split-up.