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I have told myself that I should leave on or before the anniversary. (That he doesn't even remember).
I recently told him I wanted a wedding date and an anniversary. He said yeah, we can have an anniversary if you want, but no wedding date until you can prove to me that it won't end in divorce.
I told him I wanted to tell his family (He non stop tells me they are worried about him with me)... that we have a wedding date. We had an argument and they were supposed to be coming for dinner or something that weekend... I said may we please have a date so we can tell them? He told me if I wanted that or even mentioned a wedding date to them, I should consider myself uninvited to the dinner.
He has since told me that he would look towards "December" but then said if I announce it to anyone ...I'm setting myself up for failure.
That’s correct. He just basically said he grew tired of the first wife and mother of his Children.
He left her immediately after their 3rd child was born.
He was married to his second wife for 5 years and said they were incompatible and he didn’t love her. He says he just got sick of being single and married her in error. He says she is crazy and insane as well.
The third wife was just over 2 years and he says she was crazy too. And it sounds like she actually kept leaving him and he finally said no more.
So why are you with him? Why get involved at all, with a person with this history?
Why stay involved? The door to your cage is open. All you have to do, is walk through it.
I've began reading about NLP. Neuro Linguistic Programming. I'm working to make a list of all the difficult moments, bad qualities, and hostility to help me as I go through this.
Reading these responses have assisted me with that and I appreciate that source of strength from this forum.
The pain will be inevitable. I devoted so much energy and my life to him. Now, I feel like a fool.
That’s correct. He just basically said he grew tired of the first wife and mother of his Children.
He left her immediately after their 3rd child was born.
He was married to his second wife for 5 years and said they were incompatible and he didn’t love her. He says he just got sick of being single and married her in error. He says she is crazy and insane as well.
The third wife was just over 2 years and he says she was crazy too. And it sounds like she actually kept leaving him and he finally said no more.
Why on earth would you be involved with a man like this? He has told you exactly who and what he is multiple times. Every time he disrespects and diminishes you he is manipulating this situation more.
At this point, you have to be the solution to your own problem. Find yourself a place and get out. I can’t believe you would continue to take this treatment from a jerk and even consider involving your son into this mess of a family situation (no matter his age).
Good luck and be strong. Get therapy if you need to understand why you let yourself be treated so badly.
I've began reading about NLP. Neuro Linguistic Programming. I'm working to make a list of all the difficult moments, bad qualities, and hostility to help me as I go through this.
Reading these responses have assisted me with that and I appreciate that source of strength from this forum.
The pain will be inevitable. I devoted so much energy and my life to him. Now, I feel like a fool.
Surely the pain of separation will be far less than the pain of being with a man who neither likes, nor respects, nor loves you and has zero intentions of marrying you now or ever.
I've began reading about NLP. Neuro Linguistic Programming. I'm working to make a list of all the difficult moments, bad qualities, and hostility to help me as I go through this.
Reading these responses have assisted me with that and I appreciate that source of strength from this forum.
The pain will be inevitable. I devoted so much energy and my life to him. Now, I feel like a fool.
You did? That's not what it sounds like, from your posts here. It doesn't sound like a very "L" LTR. How long have you two been together? Maybe I missed the post, where you told us that.
You did? That's not what it sounds like, from your posts here. It doesn't sound like a very "L" LTR. How long have you two been together? Maybe I missed the post, where you told us that.
Five years and she's terrified at the thought of being single at the ripe old age of forty-five.....
Five years and she's terrified at the thought of being single at the ripe old age of forty-five.....
Thank you. 45 is a great age to be single! Better get out, OP, before that 45 turns into a 50.
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