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Being partnered with a low-drive partner when one is an average to high drive partner isn't easy. If that's this guy's normal, it is what it is. Doesn't mean that there's anything the matter with him, just that this is how he's wired.
It seems as though this might be the case with our O.P. and her new love. If I were her, at this stage in the game I'd move on as this sort of thing doesn't get better with time and can cause a lot of heartache and resentment with both partners in the long term.
I'm thinking...she's 30. He's...how old? Guys tend to slow down just about when us females are revving up.
I'm thinking...she's 30. He's...how old? Guys tend to slow down just about when us females are revving up.
That's true to a degree, although I've no direct experience with that even though I've dated a fair number of guys in the forty-plus age range. Most are still good to go just as often you'd like (or let them).
I'm still thinking that this might just be a case of mismatched libidos.
Sex is supposed to improve the more familiar you get with your partner, not get worse.
Yea I agree with this, I mean the frequency may drop but the sex itself should still be pretty good if not better than in the beginning (that's how it's been with all my relationships)
How old is the guy you're dating? How often are you having sex?
Being partnered with a low-drive partner when one is an average to high drive partner isn't easy. If that's this guy's normal, it is what it is. Doesn't mean that there's anything the matter with him, just that this is how he's wired.
It seems as though this might be the case with our O.P. and her new love. If I were her, at this stage in the game I'd move on as this sort of thing doesn't get better with time and can cause a lot of heartache and resentment with both partners in the long term.
The thing to find out, though, is whether it IS normal (for him) or not. One might be able to live with actual "low sex drive" but it's probably a different ballgame when it's "sex drive is fine, just not attracted to YOU."
Yea I agree with this, I mean the frequency may drop but the sex itself should still be pretty good if not better than in the beginning (that's how it's been with all my relationships)
How old is the guy you're dating? How often are you having sex?
He's 40. We started dating in February and the sex is good but in June we had sex 4 times. And 2 of those were on the same day...after I mentioned I was worried.
Typically, you'd be hitting your stride now as a committed couple who have gotten to know each other's likes and dislikes enough to be having pretty amazing sex regularly.
What did he SAY when you mentioned you were worried?
The thing to find out, though, is whether it IS normal (for him) or not. One might be able to live with actual "low sex drive" but it's probably a different ballgame when it's "sex drive is fine, just not attracted to YOU."
If the sex was good at one point, I doubt it’s an attraction issue unless the OP’s physical appearance drastically changed in the last 4 months.
Hi all. I wanted to get some advice. I am 30, female. I've been dating a guy for about 4 months now. I haven't dated a lot, and not for a long time. I'm extremely happy with him. He treats me great and we have a lot of fun together. However...sex was fantastic for about the first 2 months, and now it's happening much less frequently and with a lot less enthusiasm. I've talked to him about it a little bit and he says he notices the change to and he's not really sure why the lack of enthusiasm. But at times I feel very rejected and hurt by this. I feel like we should still be in that honeymoon stage where we can't keep our hands off each other. Should I just let this go or maybe he's not really into me?
I would say that it is normal in this quarantine that people are affected by something.
The best way to solve a problem like this is to talk, talk and talk more with your partner to solve it.
I would say that it is normal in this quarantine that people are affected by something.
The best way to solve a problem like this is to talk, talk and talk more with your partner to solve it.
That is a good point, a lot has gone on in the past few months it may be affecting him.
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