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I went on 2 dates with this guy I met online and had the best time. Seems like a great guy and it seemed he was in to me too. Held hands, kissed me at first chance he got and we’re all over each other. We both have toddlers and just out of long relationships. He also told me he just joined online dating the week he met me. After 2nd date I spoke to him the day after date but then 3 days passed and I ended up msging him. This was a little over a week ago. He asked to hang out twice since then but never mentioned a day. I was away over the holiday weekend and he msg asking how it was going and then he called me sat night. We were also texting after and he sent me a kissy face goodnight. Haven’t heard from him since sat! He had asked to hang this week or weekend but no solid plans. I am thinking he just isn’t in to me and am trying to move on. Don’t want to waste my time playing these games. If you like someone you make it a point to set a date and to keep communication. Why is he leading me on!? Should I say something to him ?
I'm thinking that since he's new to OLD, he's getting a lot of interest from other women, and he's trying to play the field, but trying to keep his options open with you, too. He's like a kid in a candy store.
It's probably petty on my part, but if it were me, and he DID try to contact me again, I'd be 'busy' just for the principle of it. See if he'll commit to a date YOU suggest. "Oh, sorry Joe I have plans for this weekend. Yes, the whole weekend. I'm open Wednesday night for a quick drink though, if you want."
I went on 2 dates with this guy I met online and had the best time. Seems like a great guy and it seemed he was in to me too. Held hands, kissed me at first chance he got and we’re all over each other. We both have toddlers and just out of long relationships. He also told me he just joined online dating the week he met me. After 2nd date I spoke to him the day after date but then 3 days passed and I ended up msging him. This was a little over a week ago. He asked to hang out twice since then but never mentioned a day. I was away over the holiday weekend and he msg asking how it was going and then he called me sat night. We were also texting after and he sent me a kissy face goodnight. Haven’t heard from him since sat! He had asked to hang this week or weekend but no solid plans. I am thinking he just isn’t in to me and am trying to move on. Don’t want to waste my time playing these games. If you like someone you make it a point to set a date and to keep communication. Why is he leading me on!? Should I say something to him ?
The fact that he is only asking to "hang out" and not asking you out for a specific, real date, means he wants to take this slow. Like you said, he just joined online dating. He is probably enjoying the new attention from all his "matches".
He is not ready for daily communication yet. That is too "relationship-y".
You keep looking, too. I am sure he will contact you soon. Don't wait around and definitely DON'T contact HIM next, until he contacts you. He knows where to find you.
Yea he messaged me last night asking my plans for the weekend. I have my son but said he could come by after he’s asleep if he wants. He said he will keep my posted. Hard to gauge if he is taking it slow or not too interested. I think if he doesn’t come sat that will point towards lack of interest. Haven’t seen him in 2 weeks now due to my vacation. But he definitely is sending some mixed signals.
You gave him an option, and he deferred. To me, that means he’s gonna keep looking around for a “better” offer. If he really wanted to see YOU, he would have said, “Sounds great! Let me know what time.”
Saying, “I’ll keep you posted ...” is not a good indicator of interest.
Yea he messaged me last night asking my plans for the weekend. I have my son but said he could come by after he’s asleep if he wants. He said he will keep my posted. Hard to gauge if he is taking it slow or not too interested. I think if he doesn’t come sat that will point towards lack of interest. Haven’t seen him in 2 weeks now due to my vacation. But he definitely is sending some mixed signals.
WAit a minute - that is on you! YOU were the one who wasn't available.
I would meet him Saturday, you will know then if the spark is still there. And let's not forget, having a job and children is alot, so I would give him a break until Saturday.
You gave him an option, and he deferred. To me, that means he’s gonna keep looking around for a “better” offer. If he really wanted to see YOU, he would have said, “Sounds great! Let me know what time.”
Saying, “I’ll keep you posted ...” is not a good indicator of interest.
Yea agreed. How should I have responded to that ? Seemed kind of rude. Wasn’t sure if he was saying that as in posted on timing or if he was going to come over or not. Not sure why he’s msging me anymore. To be nice ? Keep as backup option?
WAit a minute - that is on you! YOU were the one who wasn't available.
I would meet him Saturday, you will know then if the spark is still there. And let's not forget, having a job and children is alot, so I would give him a break until Saturday.
Yea it was on me that we haven’t seen each other in 2 weeks but he has been msg every 3-4 days and had not set a firm date for this week when I’m back. It def is difficult coordinating with kids schedule but he has off sat and I invited him over. If he doesn’t come then there’s no other real reason except he’s not that interested so guess will have my answer then. If he does then will see how it goes and ask what he’s looking for in this.
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