My boyfriend keeps talking to another girl who obviously likes him

[NJnewbielandlord]

Originally Posted by Kreyzi Klutz

Hello! I have a boyfriend of 6 years. July of last year, he went overseas to work but he came home last month due to the pandemic. But while he was overseas, he admitted to having a month-long affair with a girl he met there. He said he stopped seeing her because he realized that he loves me. However, now that he is back, I found out that the two of them still communicate with each other. My boyfriend says, he just sees her as a friend. That may be true to him but I know that this girl still sees him as more than a friend. She obviously still has a thing for my boyfriend. She is usually the one initiating conversations with him. I trird to block her number from my boyfriend's phone but she uses unknown numbers to reach him. She also uses dummy accounts and even emails him almost everyday. In fact, she uses chat supports in an online gaming platform just to talk to him She literally does everything to keep communicating with my boyfriend. I spoke to my boyfriend about how I feel with this girl who keeps reaching him. I told him to cut his ties with her. However, he always says it's no big deal and that he really loves me. But still, he keeps entertaining her and engaging her in conversations. This obviously encourages the girl to keep communicating with him. What should I do (or should not)?

are you serious?

He cheated while away
still keeps in touch with her
you are the one making the effort to cut communication, not him
he doesnt think its a big deal

you my dear are a doormat........

[bebe182]

Well I guess as long as he says "he really loves you" he can just do whatever he wants

[zentropa]

This OP title does not match up with the seriousness of the problem.

Yes, his affair partner does "obviously like him." That's a given, is it not?

[K12144]

Nooooooope. Even if he does see her as "just a friend," the fact that her feelings obviously aren't only platonic make this inappropriate. Not only would he then be leading her on (which could end badly in so many ways, even if she *didn't* "wear him down" to go back to her), but he is also chumming around with someone classless enough to go hardcore* for someone in a relationship-- which is as disrespectful to him as it is to you.

Trust me, you don't want to stick around for how this ends.

*Like, wow, stalker-level hardcore, if she gets blocked and creates alternate phone numbers and social media accounts to get around it. That's getting into "creepy" territory, "she's kind of obsessed in the immature and inappropriate way everyone should get over by the time they're 14 or so" territory.