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The girlfriend has done it twice in 1.5 years.
She told me she wanted to be with someone else.
And she left me, took her things, but not all of them, and went to him.
She broke up with me normally.
I accepted the breakup, telling everyone that she left me.
She'll be back in two weeks, She'll say she loves me and she wants me again.
And that she will never leave again, and that she loves me.
What is this mental disorder? Can it be treated?
She will end our relationship, I am terribly worried. And then she comes back.
Something about her: She is very impulsive and easily gets angry, screams, breaks things.
In anger, she can hurt me very very verbally and sometimes physically.
She can be amazing, but also the exact opposite.
She often has mood swings, and once she loves me once she hates me.
Everything is only my fault. Everytjing I do, is bad in her eyes. She is irresponsible.
She is still writing with other men (Facebook, Instagram ... ), she has been unfaithful several times.
I love her and I haven't left her yet, even though I wanted to more than once. Sometimes she is unmanageable. I don't know how to help her anymore. I would love to help her. I dont to know what to do sad
Yesterday she was at me for some things to school. She said that she loves me, and that she is gonna come back to me this week and that she will never leave me again.
It's not a mental disorder, but it is a dysfunctional way to handle that she is probably polyamorous, or better suited to be in an open relationship. She may not realize or understand what's driving her, but it may be something to research for yourself and discuss with her so you can consider it together. Or, if this is unacceptable to you in any way, you may have to break up with her. I expect she will want to do this again in the future, even if now she thinks she'll be over it after this fling. If you are okay with it, then you should consider whether or not you want to do the same. At least, it could be a negotiating point to come to an agreement on the kind of relationship you can both accept and honor.
She'll be back in two weeks, She'll say she loves me and she wants me again.And that she will never leave again, and that she loves me.
She is still writing with other men (Facebook, Instagram ... ), she has been unfaithful several times.
This doesn't add up. Are you thinking about what's actually happened and is happening? And now you're on the third occurrence, in just 1 1/2 years? She obviously not completely and totally into the relationship, and there's a clear pattern going on.
Why not start a healthy relationship elsewhere?
It's not about words and reassurances; it's about actions. Actions speak louder than words. Start paying attention to her actions - instead of her words - for a change.
It's not a mental disorder, but it is a dysfunctional way to handle that she is probably polyamorous, or better suited to be in an open relationship. She may not realize or understand what's driving her, but it may be something to research for yourself and discuss with her so you can consider it together. Or, if this is unacceptable to you in any way, you may have to break up with her. I expect she will want to do this again in the future, even if now she thinks she'll be over it after this fling. If you are okay with it, then you should consider whether or not you want to do the same. At least, it could be a negotiating point to come to an agreement on the kind of relationship you can both accept and honor.
She is physically and verbally abusive. There is no considering a future with someone like that as her promiscuity and lack of faithfulness is the least of this couple's problems. That's advice that I would give anyone--male or female--who is dealing with someone who thinks that it's okay to attack a partner on a regular basis, belittle them while taking no ownership of their own failings, and do the constant on and off again thing when it only benefits them.
If she's indeed, polyamorous, would she be willing to let the O.P. seek out sex and companionship elsewhere, too? Something tells me that would *not* be the case and she'd expect him to wait until her new guy figured out her level of instability and sent her packing.
I seem remember a very similar story from several months ago. O.P.--is this the girlfriend who moved from a foreign country to be with you? If she's this mentally unstable, you need to to detach from her once and for all. Next time she wants to leave, make sure that she takes all of her things, change the locks, and block her on all fronts.
It's not a mental disorder, but it is a dysfunctional way to handle that she is probably polyamorous, or better suited to be in an open relationship. She may not realize or understand what's driving her, but it may be something to research for yourself and discuss with her so you can consider it together. Or, if this is unacceptable to you in any way, you may have to break up with her. I expect she will want to do this again in the future, even if now she thinks she'll be over it after this fling. If you are okay with it, then you should consider whether or not you want to do the same. At least, it could be a negotiating point to come to an agreement on the kind of relationship you can both accept and honor.
Thanks, I understand polyamorous. I can understand unconventional things but this is extrem.
There is a problem, that she was always jalous to me. Nobody can write me. And she is writing with many guys. This must by the same for both of us.
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I stopped when you said she hurt you physically. That is where this relationship should stop too. Once you put your hands on your partner, there is no going back, that dissolves the deal like lava hitting trees.
She is physically and verbally abusive. There is no considering a future with someone like that as her promiscuity and lack of faithfulness is the least of this couple's problems. That's advice that I would give anyone--male or female--who is dealing with someone who thinks that it's okay to attack a partner on a regular basis, belittle them while taking no ownership of their own failings, and do the constant on and off again thing when it only benefits them.
If she's indeed, polyamorous, would she be willing to let the O.P. seek out sex and companionship elsewhere, too? Something tells me that would *not* be the case and she'd expect him to wait until her new guy figured out her level of instability and sent her packing.
I seem remember a very similar story from several months ago. O.P.--is this the girlfriend who moved from a foreign country to be with you? If she's this mentally unstable, you need to to detach from her once and for all. Next time she wants to leave, make sure that she takes all of her things, change the locks, and block her on all fronts.
You can't heal someone with her mental problems.
I think you are right.
I thought that I am able to say no to her. But I am addicted to her fyzicaly. I am not able to NOT having sex with her. After week I am extremely horny, and nothing helps. So if she wants me, she always take me by sex.
I thought that I am able to say no to her. But I am addicted to her fyzicaly. I am not able to NOT having sex with her. After week I am extremely horny, and nothing helps. So if she wants me, she always take me by sex.
And that is the reason, why I am still with her,
If you don't care that she plays w/ your emotions & yo-yo's you around all the time & will for the rest of your life, then stay w/ her. You two deserve each other. That's more mentally & emotionally stable & stronger people for us other folks.
I thought that I am able to say no to her. But I am addicted to her fyzicaly. I am not able to NOT having sex with her. After week I am extremely horny, and nothing helps. So if she wants me, she always take me by sex.
And that is the reason, why I am still with her,
Would you subject a child to her aggressive, violent, and unstable behavior and the constant drama that surrounds the relationship dynamic that you tolerate? Please, for the love of all that's holy, do not get her pregnant.
And yep--you're the same poster as before. At a certain point, if she won't take responsibility for her actions, you must take responsibility for your own. You can only control yourself.
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