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Old 04-20-2021, 05:53 AM
 
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I was talking to and went out a few times with a girl for several months. We’ve been communicating less and I think she may have been upset. I recently found out through a friend that she made a fake account and has been adding my friends on social media viewing their pictures, stories, etc. for a while now. I didn’t tell my friends who this is but I was able to figure it out based on what they told me. The account has been deleted now. I told my friends it might be a toxic ex I had because I don’t want to tell them who she is. The last conversation I had with her, we discussed taking a break from talking. Should I send her a message telling her I know what’s going on? Should I just delete and block her? Wait to see if she contacts me and then bring it up?

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Old 04-20-2021, 06:02 AM
 
Location: Central Virginia
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Delete and block.
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Old 04-20-2021, 06:21 AM
 
Location: IN>Germany>ND>OH>TX>CA>Currently NoVa and a Vacation Lake House in PA
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...and then send her a note in study hall saying you don't like her. It will doubly reinforce that you want her to leave you alone.
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Old 04-20-2021, 10:52 AM
 
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Delete and block.
Ok, that’s what I am thinking.
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Old 04-20-2021, 07:18 PM
 
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She's probably having a hard time not speaking with you. I'd forgive her, and go to couples counseling. I'm guessing one is clingy, and the other employees distancing strategies.

Did you drop her on Facebook as well? Maybe, it's not her?
We weren’t in a relationship. We met in person twice. We talked online for a several months. Do you think I should text her and ask her about why she did that? Or just block her? I don’t have social media right now, we communicate on what’s app.
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Old 04-20-2021, 07:55 PM
 
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We weren’t in a relationship. We met in person twice. We talked online for a several months. Do you think I should text her and ask her about why she did that? Or just block her? I don’t have social media right now, we communicate on what’s app.
You don't even know for sure it was her, so she'll just deny it. And if you don't want to engage with her, then as others have said-- don't. Block her and forget her. And let your friends know that "friending" random people is maybe not always the best idea.

(And it doesn't matter if she's "having a hard time not speaking with you." That's for her to deal with, not you; she's an adult, right? Assuming you weren't mean to her, you have no obligation to "feel sorry for her" because you no longer want to be friends-or-whatever-you-were.)
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Old 04-20-2021, 08:01 PM
 
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I was talking to and went out a few times with a girl for several months. We’ve been communicating less and I think she may have been upset. I recently found out through a friend that she made a fake account and has been adding my friends on social media viewing their pictures, stories, etc. for a while now. I didn’t tell my friends who this is but I was able to figure it out based on what they told me. The account has been deleted now. I told my friends it might be a toxic ex I had because I don’t want to tell them who she is. The last conversation I had with her, we discussed taking a break from talking. Should I send her a message telling her I know what’s going on? Should I just delete and block her? Wait to see if she contacts me and then bring it up?
Give nothing. Even negative attention is positive to a stalker.

Block delete tell your friends to block or delete.
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Old 04-21-2021, 05:01 AM
 
Location: Bloomington IN
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Don't communicate with people you think are being stalkerish. Any communication, even negative, gives them the attention and connection they crave.
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Old 04-21-2021, 05:35 AM
 
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Yeah I’m not really interested in talking to her but I was wondering if I should ask her why she did that. We communicated on what’s app and I already deleted her but I think I should go ahead and block her too.
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Old 04-21-2021, 06:00 AM
 
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Why don’t you tell her clearly that you aren’t interested in a relationship and that you wish her well? Then block.
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