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Take your wife on regular dates and an occasional weekend away. Let her set the pace for planning.
Perhaps you can share calendars or hang a real calendar/chalkboard on the wall where you can jot down notes, lists, and block out time for your planned activities. It helps to draw a heart or write something romantic where she can find it.
Don’t give up your time with your brother. Successful marriages are built on creative compromise and listening to your spouse. Find out why she doesn’t want to let you go on those trips. If you can get to the root of her insecurity, you can find positive ways to make her feel more confident.
I'll be honest. I personally wouldn't really want my husband doing this either. "Every few mos" may not seem like a lot to you, but time zips by fast, so it probably feels like that time pops up again every other month or every month.
She must have been aware that you & your brother did this BEFORE you & her got married right? If I knew that my soon-to-be husband did this w/ his brother, I'd be having a discussion w/ him about it before we got married.
One's spouse is the priority once one gets married no matter how close one is to family.
Do you & your wife even go on a little vacation OR at least weekend getaway every few mos too? I would certainly hope so since you do it w/ your brother. If you & your wife don't, well no wonder she doesn't like it. You're off w/ your brother doing the weekend getaway that you SHOULD be doing w/ your wife.
Is your brother single or married? If he's single, I'm not suprised & if he is, well he should be spending MORE time w/ his wife too! Act more like a married man & not some single guy.
Your wife is being immature and selfish. As long as you also prioritize some long weekends with her to places she likes to go, there should never be a problem with you seeing your brother and Dad. Family values are the foundation of happiness, and that includes your immediate family as well as extended. Your wife should be planning a girls night on her free weekends and looking forward to having her own space for a few days. She has no clue how lucky she is. If she contintues to cause problems about this, then If I were you I would tell her how the cow eats the cabbage (or where to go, lol) trying to be nice! You sound like a really thoughtful husband and your family values are strong and that's a good thing!
I hope you have a wonderful time on your next trip !!
I really don't think spending 4 weekends a year seeing your brother and father is too much. That's maybe 8-10 days a year. How many days do you spend with her family?
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